Tired of caring anymore
Sounds like you really struggling and that your teenage daughters often dont treat you well. That must be a horrible feeling but we want to remind that all life is important, including yours and whilst it may not feel like it right now, you can certainly become strong again. We understand how hard it can be especially during this of year and want you to know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.
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This was really sad to read and I'm sorry to hear about the pain you are going through.
What has led to you to feel isolated from your family?
I believe any parent struggles with raising teenager daughters, it's a very confusing and stressful time for teenagers, especially in this day and age and with social media, it would be so hard being a teenager! As a young female adolescent, I can say that phase is something girls grow out of.
I truly don't believe they wouldn't care if you were to end things. I think so many more people would care, more than you know.
Do you speak to your wife about this?
I'm really glad you came back to talk through some of things that have been making you feel so down. I can relate to being on the receiving end of the types of behaviours your daughters are throwing your way as I have two daughters of my own in their twenties. Usually, they do seem to grow out of it (when they grow up a bit) and come to realise the way they treated you was unfair. Generally, when they have children of their own or are mature enough to reflect on they way they behaved towards you. At that time, you might even get a heartfelt apology. I'm not saying the way they are treating you is fair or right, just that this can be a teenage girl thing. It's like you have to 'weather the storm' to get to the calm waters. However, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and care.
I know you said you have talked to a professional and it didn't work out, too much talking. I wonder though if some sort of family counselling might help. Your daughters and wife may not know the effect their behaviours are having on you and the way it is making you feel. Some individual counselling might help you find ways to express to them how you are feeling and also express how their behaviour makes you feel.
I find 'I statements' are a good way to express my feelings.
It's sounds like there has been a pattern established where you get the fallout of all their feelings and I wonder what your wife's role is in allowing this to continue. (something to think about) and how she could be a support or back-up to you when these things happen.
Happy to talk if you want or need to.