The one that got away

berry-waffle

He was my absolute best friend when we were in high school. He was my person. We were inseparable. We were 16-18 year olds. He is the best person I have ever met. He fell in love with me back then, but I did not like him that way, and I did not handle it well. This caused a rift, and we didn't talk the same way again for a long time. He was my everything. Nobody ever came as close as he did. Letters had always been our thing. We would write each other handwritten letters even though we met and talked every day. Fast forward 8 years. We are both 25 now. We reconnected, and turned out we still think about each other a lot. We both still have our letters from all those years ago. When we started talking again, we talked a lot. This time, I fell in love with him. I sent him a handwritten letter halfway across the world, pouring my heart out and telling him how I feel. He is not into it. I completely understand his side of it. I think a part of me saw it coming, but it still hurts. A lot. Do we ever get over the one that got away?

white knight

Hi, welcome

Some do and some dont. Some hold onto the past as a "what could have been" and others move on quickly.

Many years ago I told a friend I was thinking of returning to my 1st wife mainly as I missed my full time fatherhood, he said "never go backwards". I took notice and soon she lived with another guy and she mistreated him the same as she did me, in a narcissistic manner.

If 30 men paraded in front of you, you are likely capable of falling in love with at least 2 of them. That theory of mine leads the way to believing you can meet someone even better than your old crush/lover. The problem is twofold- 1/ living in the past has its mental stress and 2/ meeting people nowadays is not near as easy as it once was.

I've had 4 long term partners all over 7 years. My first partner I've still got a piece of her in my heart but my now wife of 13 years is magical, thoughtful and caring plus more compatible than all previous. So, you really need to manage your feelings with ex relations rather than wishing for a future imo.

"If ever you've fallen in love and it hasnt worked out... its like scrambled eggs... you'll never unscramble them, but you can serve yourself a fresh omelette..."

I hope I've helped.

TonyWK