The never ending saga

[blues23]

As to form my family member took another disrespectful step towards me today I cut all contact around 3 weeks ago sent them a letter outlining what they are doing; ( pointless but I needed to purge for my mental health) they went to  my local newspaper shop ( I got their kids and mine paper rounds a few years ago and have been paying them for their work and vise Versa) today my family member went in behind my back to the owner and told them to split the round in half ) so she can do her bit by herself and they tried to get the poor owner involved in my family members triangulation of me ) I felt so sorry for the owner I apologised and told her I’m sorry that she got put in the middle and it’s very unprofessional of my family member to behave this way she was quite understanding and said it was up to me if I want to let her split it so I did I was just purely shocked by it all most people address issues with the person not drag strangers into it But the effect of my family member doing this to me again just to twist the pain they are causing me to like get a reaction out of me  to hurt me more I did my best and just accept that the rounds be split & that’s fine : my family member doing ( who I requested in my letter to not contact me again they did to twist the pain again and hurt me again insinuating I was like withholding their payment for their paper rounds ( cause that’s just what I do steal things & lie sure ) and ask me for receipts of payment and stuff like this …my only reply was to come get it on my doorstep cause that’s where they are most comfortable.. 

im honestly sick of this like I set barriers they break them they do anything to hurt me to discredit me to tarnish me and I’ve spent so much of my time & efforts trying to give them chances and understanding and I still end up despite setting barriers and laying out how hurt I am I still get smacked down and disrespected .  I’m a little sad and hurt and I’m like why am i bothering myself with all this petty nonsense . They will never respect me or even acknowledge what they are doing to me 

[BlueLily]

Hello blues23,

I’m really sorry you had to deal with a personal matter with a complete outsider involved, especially a shop owner, of all people. I’m not sure if it’s the same family member you mentioned in your previous posts who’s been causing all this stress, but either way, it sounds like an exhausting situation.

Family is supposed to be the one who protect us, support us, and look out for us. But I’ve had my own share of family drama too, and I’ve often wondered why the people closest to us can sometimes hurt us the most. Over time, I’ve come to realise that family relationships can create a sense of entitlement. Some people feel they have the right to say or do hurtful things simply because you’re related, assuming they’ll always be forgiven no matter what.

In my experience, completely cutting off a family member isn’t always practical, especially when you live nearby and share mutual relatives and friends. What has worked better for me is accepting that some relatives are simply difficult to deal with, and learning to maintain healthy boundaries and a bit of distance for my own peace of mind.

Take care

Blue

[blues23]

Hi blue lily 

thank you for your reply , yes it is the same family member they  got really nasty recently accusing me of everything they have done and asked me to do put gifts over their fence for their sons birthday & because I did that ,what they asked me to do im spiteful  and I had hidden agendas when it’s what they asked me to do ,  I got called spiteful pathetic, aggressive and numerous other names they launched at me . They have cut access to my dad ( even thou he and I aren’t speaking right now I can’t even call him  they have cut access off completely they have put this phone screening device on his phone so yeah I’m pretty much up in that isolation zone )  I was very surprised finding this out as I haven’t spoke to him in a couple of months as I was hoping my dad would help with removing of some of my family members stuff I’ve stored over the years in my house and they have wanted it back but only if I’m not home forcing me to leave my house unlocked to get their stuff. Potentially leaving my house open to being burgled. It’s all so crazy and petty and my family member is just like the nastiest person Ive ever met it’s hard to think how I ever knew them at all . I’ve had to cut them off because its just not safe for me or my child my mental health has been really affected I haven’t been able to sleep ,been like crying on the side of the rd ,having panic attacks so I have no choice but to but to remove myself it’s not healthy anymore. I’m having counselling so I’m getting help but they advise to block my family out due to the effects it’s having on my wellbeing & abilities to get thru the days without breaking down