He keeps saying "marry me now." And I'm scared. I've explained to him that I want to get my university studies out of the way before committing to anything like that...
He isn't good with managing money or budgeting either. He will spend everything until he has nothing. And his parent's have to control his finances. And that makes me enormously nervous because I came from a low income family and if I have children I don't want my future kids to grow up without certain opportunities. I want to keep saving money and make the most of my future.
My partner's father is also emotionally abusive towards him. As a result, that has left my partner with a low self esteem and lack of confidence. And I came from a background where my mother was psychologically abusive towards me. We now don't talk anymore, at all. And I don't want my child or children, in the future, to get psychologically abused by their grandfather. At almost 21 years old, I am already recognizing the cycle of abuse and I am trying to heal from generational trauma. And because my partner is dependent on his father for money and other finances, that makes me EXTREMELY nervous. Will he have to depend on him forever because of his "irresponsible spending'?
He does not value money and he doesn't seem to understand that you don't always have to spend any spare amount of cash that he may have. It's perfectly fine to save money. You don't need to spend every cent or dollar you have. Saving money for a rainy day is extremely important. Money can create so many arguments in relationships..
And his lack of responsibility and appreciation for money makes me EXTREMELY NERVOUS.
I'M SO STRESSED. I really don't know what to do.
