Sexless Marriage - My husband has no sex drive

[Jolteon_Thunder]

Since being married (about 2 years) we have had sex around 5-10 times. Most of which was during the honeymoon. I haven't had sex for about a year. He says it's him but it's getting hard to believe.

He says he's self-concious. I do everything to reassure him. I'm desperately sick of being rejected. I look after myself and am quite fit, but I feel so ugly at this point. I just want to know if there's other women who are facing the same issue.

[geoff]

Hello JT, being intimate in a marriage, is for times when the two of you really want to, because if it's done with only one person needing or wanting it, then it's not the same satisfaction.

There does come a time in life, which I never thought would happen as a youngster, where it has no strength in a marriage, the couple simply don't want to do it, and when this has been accepted, then a couple can stay married for a long time and grandchildren will give them much more pleasure.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[Sophie_M]

Dear Jolteon_Thunder,

Thank you for bringing up an excellent point which often confuses many people. We understand that many of the things we 'know' are actually things that society tells us must be true; whether they are true or not.

We know that sex drive, also known as libido, has been studied quite a lot around the world. Everybody has a certain level of libido, ranging from almost none to quite high. Interestingly, unlike what society believes, libido is not connected to a person's gender. in half of all hetero-sexual relationships surveyed, the male had the higher libido, and in half the female had the higher libido. However, in almost every relationship studied, one of the partners always had a higher libido than the other partner.

Again, thank you for finding the courage to contribute to discussions in our helpful and supportive community.

Warm regards,

Sophie M.
 

[Jo_11]

Sorry I'm no help, it's been more than 3.5 years here. 

I will start another thread, because I don't want to take over this one. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone.