separation

[KMR]

I am in the early stages of separation and I am really not coping at all. right now I just don't think I can continue

[Sophie_M]

Hi KMR,
 
Thank you for your post. We are so sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way and going through such a difficult time with the early stages of separation. We’re glad you could share this here. 

Having a relationship end can be one of the most distressing experiences one can go through. It can truly feel like a form of grief and it is completely understandable for things to be feeling overwhelming right now. 

If you ever feel like you can't keep yourself safe, please do not hesitate to reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14, as well as the Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467. If it is an emergency, the number to call is 000.
 
You are also very welcome to give the lovely Beyond Blue counsellors a call on 1300 22 4636 or speak to them on webchat here. 
 
Thanks again for sharing here. We’re sure you’ll hear from some other community members soon. We hope you can treat yourself with kindness while you navigate this challenging time. We are here for you 24/7.
 
Kind regards, 
 
Sophie M 

[24J88K]

So sorry to hear that you're going through this.

I went through a separation about 4 years ago and I remember how hopeless everything seemed. I also felt like I couldn't go on, or at least had no idea how I even would.

I remember the constant anxiety and dread I would feel, which I couldn't mentally escape.

As bad as things seem at the beginning, the truth is that things do get easier. Once you get over the initial pain and heart ache (which might take several months), you will start to see glimpses of hope, and eventually break through and find happiness.

Something that I found to help me was to list 5-10 positive things in my life. Then hyper focusing on those. Whether they're family, friends, career, interests, bucket list items, etc.

Hope things get easier - hang in there.

[Guest_17432058]

I don't know if this will be any comfort but you're not alone. I am currently in the same boat and it's so hard. Everything seems impossible and hard, like there are no good choices. 

It's so easy to think this is how it will be forever and like you might never come back from this. Starting all over again feels so pointless and I feel like such a failure for ending up here. But I keep reminding myself that this will pass like everything else and if I can keep my head above water and lean on those who I know love me (in my case family and friends) for this worst part then I think I will get through. 

Stay strong, you've got this!

[randomxx]

V sorry to hear it op . l know it doesn't help our own situations so much but there's so many people going through all this too or that have , that at least we know we aren't alone and there's always someone that understands.

Come and write and talk here anytime at all too, l personally think it does help sometimes getting things out and that knowing there are people here that giva damn or can even help or at least just be a caring ear.

Separation or going through d is like some kind of sentence isn't it, but we can know though that once we've done the time things start to look up and who knows what new doors and happiness open up again from there right.

Hang in there.

rx

[sbella02]

Hey KMR,

I'm so sorry to hear that you've been going through this awful process, I hope you're doing okay now. 

I know I'm several months late to this post, but I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing, if you're willing to share. We're here to listen if you need support or just need to vent. 

Take care, SB