Relationship/ commitment

[Guest_92311439]

• Hi all, I'm currently dealing with a dilemma if that's what I can call it. 
• I was in a relationship for 4 years and for the for first 2 years it was the best thing that has happened to me, over time I had to relive some previous anxiety and depression I went through a few years before the relationship started, this started to affect my ex partner and our relationship in major ways I was distant she felt unloved and all that. 
• We have been apart for 7 months now and we still talk here and there as we are both struggling to move on or let go. 
• Just looking for some advice on why I would feel like this:
• 50% of me wants to let go because i feel my anxiety and depression is stopping me feeling what we once felt together but the other 50% is telling me that she is it and I want her, and only her. The thought of me or her being with someone else just just doesn't feel right at all and neither of us have yet. I'm just really cconfused.

Thank you for reading

[Croix]

Dear New Member~

When my depression was at its worst I was cold, distant and wanted to be left alone. I had no thoughts of love, just hoplessness. As it improved my love started to return until nowadays it is as strong as ever. Fortunately my partner stuck around, even though feelng unloved. I would not have blamed her if she had left. I was very difficult to live with.

So I guess the first thing to ask you is if you are under any form of treatment for your anxiety and depression? The reason I ask is I never improved until I did.

The second thing is that this is a two-person problem. Have you been able total k to your ex-partner about this and found out what she wants. Be honest and let her know how you feel. Hopefully she will be honest with you.

With both of these matters sorted you will probavbly end up wiht a much better idea of how you should proceed in the future

If you would like to let us know how you both go that would be great

Croix