I feel your pain Shdowz.
Many years ago my wife shot through on News Years Eve, taking the kids. I remember the following weeks were a blur of shock, pain, anger, despair and sadness and then you cycle through those 5 emotions repeatedly. It’s magnified when your ex immediately finds a new partner.
This is what I learnt. Be the best man you can be for the sake of your children. Look after yourself. Eat healthy, stay off the booze and exercise till you are exhausted (helps you sleep). When you pick up the kids always wear a clean shirt, use aftershave lotion and stay strong. Never bad mouth your ex wife to anybody, especially the children. Make your time with the children happy. No questions about your wife or her new life during the children’s visits. Many years into the future, your children will reward you because of your strength.
Don’t allow yourself to be rushed into making big decisions during this very emotional period. You’ll need to see a family law solicitor at some point to help you through the muddle but there’s no rush.
I promise you there is more to your life than the darkness you see now. My own situation 37 years ago was similar to you now. Now in 2020, I am happy, with grandchildren and I have lovely adult daughters who I feared I had lost forever. Try not allow yourself to get sucked into the vortex of negativity like I did, it slowed my life progress for years. Don’t make my mistake.
