No One Cares

[Lu8Lu8]

Hi,

I just got an amazing job offer that I’m super excited about after studying so hard for so long. However, when I told everyone around me who knew I had worked so hard to get here, their reaction was super underwhelming. It was almost like they didn’t care. They said congrats and then let the conversation completely die. Even my boyfriend didn’t seem all that interested and he knows how much I worked for this. I feel a little deflated now because this seems to happen anytime I want to talk about anything in my life. Regardless of whether it is good news or bad news. Why do the people around me not seem to care about me? I’m starting to think there is something wrong with me like a huge ‘avoid me’ sign over my head. I just feel so alone right now and I hate it because this should be a happy time. 

[Scared]

Hi  I can only see two ways forward.

Firstly learn not to need their enthusiasm for your achievements and invest in others who do share your successes or secondly talk to those around you that you feel hurt and neglected.   They may not even be aware that you are feeling this way and you can only be sure if you tell them .  Congratulations on your job and I hear how much you deserve this success.

[Happylife]

Hello Lu8Lu8,

Firstly, Congratulations on getting a great job after all your hard work and dedication, it's an incredibly rewarding feeling and you should be very proud of yourself.

I am sorry to hear how your loved ones don't appreciate you enough, it's very natural to feel unhappy when others don't share in your happiness or enthusiasm. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who genuinely care about your well-being is extremely important.

Sometimes our expectations of other's reactions can be higher than what they can actually provide. The best policy is "No expectations, no disappointments".

It would also be really good to openly talk to them about your feelings and understand why their reactions might be underwhelming. Sometimes they may not even realize how important their support means to you.

What really matters most is your own happiness and taking pride in your achievements, no matter how other people feel about it. No one can make you happy but yourself.

I am sure there will be someone who would share your excitement, so celebrate with them or on your own.

Please don't blame yourself and kudos to you on your wonderful achievement...

Take care

Happylife