No idea

[Beyondbeingblue]

Hi 

I am a 52 yr F 

I haven't spoken to my son in over 5 years. We were very close. It hurts everyday. He got married and I had to sneak in to see it as I wasn't invited. 

It was lovely. 

I have asked my dad if he knows any reason and he has said no... 

I have subtly asked him in a round about way to please probe my son for a reason.... but he dosent. 

My dad I'd in his 80's and I understand that the memory is not as good as it used to be... but my dad can't even call me to say hello. I live 4 hours away. 

My mum past away 4 years ago... I am really lost without her, she would be fumeing that they are both treating me this way... 

I miss he so bad every day. 

It really hurts that I have no friends to lean on or family... 

I had to grieve for my mum on my own. I'm still suffering but get by as I have too. 

What can I do, how can I stop this silly behaviour before I'm too old. 

[David35]

I don't have the answers as mum and I have experienced something similar during her cancer treatment and we are still grieving too. I just wanted to let you know that I feel for you. My birthday and his wife virtually estranged us when she got sick. No explanation. It's the not knowing that is the hard part. Have you tried contacting him? Asked him for reasons? You've certainly been through a lot though, so go easy on yourself. No one deserves to be treated this way.