After 30 years and 3 beautiful children we are calling it a day. How do you cope with this? The emptiness the unknown? Have we done the right thing? All those questions and more keep running around in my thoughts. How and when will I know what im going to do?
Firstly, welcome to the forums. I am sorry to read what you are going through.
I am not sure there is a full proof piece of advice I can give that will allow you to cope with this, it is one of those things were time heals all wounds. It hurts I know.
Speaking about it is a good step however. How can we help you from these forums? I am not divorced so don't have experience to offer in regards to that but always happy to support and listen.
My best for you,
There are reasons why this happened and it's up to you to tell us if you want, but for me maybe I should explain why ours finished, that may make you feel more comfortable.
I need to say that now I only drink socially for two reasons, I don't want to drink all the time and
I hope that you can get back to us, it's an anonymous and safe site so please feel comfortable coming back to us. Geoff.
thankyou for sharing your experience with me.
There are a lot of reasons for our separation but I do take some responsibility. My husband and I have not had an emotional and physical relationship for a very long time.
I did something stupid and regretful and hate myself for it, and now it seems he has someone and we have only told our families in the last 2 weeks.
Its been a tough 16 months with the passing of my dear Mum and 3 special uncles in 2016. My emotional state is not the best. I am on antidepressants but I feel they have just numbed all my real emotions to be honest.
I'm just feeling so broken at the moment
It's awful when this does actually happen, I know how you feel because it just numbed me in all ways, I didn't know what to do or who to speak to because my appointments with my psychologist were fortnightly and I'd just seen her the day before, so I felt lost, until
I'm truly sorry for you but you can't take all the blame, that has to be shared, and quite option I think whether we could have made it work out, and my answer is no it couldn't. Geoff.
I am sorry to read about the passing of your mum and family members, that is never easy when you are in the best state of mind, add in any mental health concerns and it magnifies is so much more.
I know things are tough but just know we are hear for support and a place where you can vent and let those frustrations out.