Hi, welocme
The best thing to do in your situation is try t accept that every new relationship is with an entirely different person. Now the new love in your life might have other intolerable quirks that need consideration hence your wisdom in taking things slow and being thorough.
Now all men have poor values but at the end of the day after some time you should know when it is the right time to blend your lives together. You might even feel a few visits to a counsellor might help you through the low faith level issue.
Finally a challenge you might have is talking about your ex in detail... try replacing that time with laughter, attending comedies, activities like ballooning, camping or travel even if its overnight down to the coast.
You deserve the best, pursue it ok. Good luck
TonyWK
