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My gf left me at my most vulnerable
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I had always said, no worries you can go through anything as I have nothing to hide. When she went through my phone she worked out I went on 3 dates in 2017 not the two dates I said. I completely forgot about the I had at the start of the year, she then found a message I sent my brother two years ago and accused me of being disgraceful to every women. It was a minor personal joke with my brother. She made me feel so bad about everything, yelling at the top of her lungs, and I’m extremely passive and avoid confrontation. She then proceeded to do a Facebook search and saw I liked a photo of my ex girlfriend two years ago, she was in a photo with my mates wfie ( we broke up 5 years ago). She accused me of being a promicuous man as I was chasing her two years ago while chasing my ex. I haven’t spoken to me ex in 5 years. When she saw this innocent liked picture she walked to me abused me. I laid on the ground in shock and disbelief. I never thought anything like this would come from her.
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This has truly broken me and this feeling is unbearable.
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The tears are killing me, its like I am soon to be a stranger to her, even after what happened. I care for her dearly...
I can't remember the last day I was happy. The text messages and what was said in them keep playing over and over in my head. What her and her mum both said to me has affected me greatly and they will never know how much it did, as it said to never speak to them again so I couldn't reply.
I put my heart on the line and she destroyed it with her jealousy and insecurities making situations out of nothing. I can't even bare myself to watch anything I like and used to love to watch or do all the activities I loved to do.
There are some days that feel meaningless and I feel lost.
I don't eat, I don't have an appetite
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Hi,
Sorry to read about you are feeling, especially finding out via a text message.
You mentioned in your first post about depression and in Quirky's response asked if you seeing a counsellor. There are two things I want to say to you...
Firstly, I am listening to you. I am unsure of how you feel after you write here, but please continue to do so it if does help. Jess also suggested writing a letter but not sending it. This is another good idea, somewhat similar to writing a journal.
There are other strategies to help you move forward, but rather than write them here, you might like to check out this link...
https://headspace.org.au/young-people/how-to-get-over-a-relationship-breakup/
and if you not able to come to term with what happened, then perhaps getting professional help could be considered? I have copied some text from the above page...
"If it’s been longer than two weeks, it’s time to take action. If you’re struggling to move on after a break-up, or if you feel unsafe in any way, it’s important to talk things through with someone you trust. This may be a friend or family member. If you'd prefer to talk to someone outside your family and friends, your general practitioner (GP), a counsellor, or someone at your local headspace centre can provide you with confidential support."
There is no shame or embarrassment in getting help. It is my hope that you will be able to move forward from this experience to live a life of joy, and perhaps form new relationship(s).
Peace and comforting thoughts,
Tim
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