My estranged sister called me yesterday
I didn't know my phone rang as it was on silent so it came up a missed call.
I couldn't call her back right away as I was not able to.
When I could I sat there thinking do I call back, what do I say.
I called back but she didn't answer.
I am still so angry at her over many things, I can't seem to let go of my anger.
She has hurt me tremendously and contributed to my depression and anxiety.
I am anxious about if she calls back and I don't know how to deal with it.
Hi Mister M,
When your sister calls back, sit somewhere calm and quiet in your home and listen carefully to what she has to say. Answering her call does not mean you are obligated to forgive her. Forgiveness is the most positive result of this situation, but it's understandable that it may be difficult and take some time.
If you want to talk through some issues with her, rather than getting angry (you might not do this, I realise), try to focus on how you feel and how what she has said or done has hurt you. This way, an unhelpful argument is far less likely to happen.
I hope that the phone call doesn't cause any problems for you, and that you can keep your anxiety at a manageable level.