Missing my daughter

[Fridays]

I feel guilty leaving my daughter back home. I miss her. But I need to come here in Australia to work. I keep blaming myself and feel sorry that I wasn’t be there for her everyday 

[Sophie_M]

Hi there Fridays,

We are so sorry to hear how tough things are. It sounds like you are sitting with a lot of guilt and self-blame. These can be such heavy feelings to carry by yourself.

We are sure the community will jump in soon with some support. In the meantime, the Beyond Blue counsellors are here for you if you’d like to talk this through on 1300 22 4636, or via online chat. It is so important that you look after yourself during these times and they can help you, or just be there if you want to talk. 

We hope that being on the Forums and writing about what you are feeling is helpful. Sitting with you here ❤️

Kind regards
Sophie M

[Summer Rose]

Hi Fridays

As a mum I can certainly understand why you are feeling guilty and blaming yourself for being away from your daughter. I know that you really want to be with her, and I am so very sorry that you find yourself in this position.

I think what you need to remember is that you are doing what you think is best to provide for your daughter.  This is what all of us mothers do--what is best for our children.  Please be kind to yourself, you have made a huge sacrifice for your child and deserve nothing but kindness.

I'm wondering how old your daughter is?  Can you communicate with her via FaceTime or phone?  Perhaps if you could do this, you might feel better.   With a little help from someone at home you could hopefully retain daily contact with your daughter.  You could also send her letters with photos of you and small gifts from Australia to let her know that you are always thinking of her.

Hopefully you won't have to be apart too long.  

Kind thoughts to you

[sunnyl20]

I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much hurt. I am not a parent yet, so cannot imagine the pain that you are feeling being away from your daughter but please try not to blame yourself or feel guilty - it sounds like you have had to make some really difficult decisions to support your family. That feeling of missing her likely won't go away but are there some ways that you can connect with her over FaceTime or WhatsApp or something similar?

Please feel free to reach out on these forums at anytime, we are here to listen and support you. Take care