I need advice, have thought so much that nothing makes sense to me anymore.
I have been with my partner for fair few years now, boundaries have been pushed and tempers have been lost but I do love him.
I have had my brother in hospital with a brain injury for 7 months which has been a living nightmare to say the least. I have had many breakdowns and 3/4 months in my partner said he's leaving me while angry. A week later he came back and said all the right things.
As of a few weeks ago, he told me he had been at another girls house and had slept together but there were no real feelings. We had huge fight and both become violent.
We realised how messed up that was, spoke about everything and then got back on track.
He wanted me to try more and I was willing I offered to stay on a weds but he had few too many beers with his dad and staying there. I offered again Thurs and seemed off. He then told me that she had stuff going on and asked to stay and had lied the night before. They had been in seperate rooms.
I went to confront him, and he came out gate charging me. I had to go back hospital and the whole time he was saying he would come see me. To then ignore me so I showed up. He kept me outside like a dog while she hid away in spare room. He then locked me out as I was banging on windows he actually called cops. I had already reported violent encounters. He then vanishes for several days, reaching out as suited him and ignoring attempts from me.
Had eventually met up and calmed down. He assumes me that he was only helping a friend. It's the lack of truth, defending her (court cases pending) attacking me like I did the wrong thing and all round disrespect that got me.
To then very recently find out he said to a guy that he loved her but that was supposedly to stop him from cracking on to her...
But came out she was someone he was seeing years before and there was interest.
He still defends himself saying he was there for a friend but should have included me and not lie.
Then says "I don't have to worry because she won't talk to him because she thinks he's a liar and what not"
I'm struggling to get my head around this, he expects me to just move passed it. I am exhausted and at hospital everyday for my brother. I just don't even know what's real amymore. I just want to feel safe again.
Any advice/feedback would be appreciated
