Meeting someone 2 weeks ago then they say they do not want to pursue a relationship with me anymore

[Ginger_roll]

Hello, everyone.

I met someone a couple of weeks ago and we really hit it off. Conversations were easy and flowed very nicely. We were talking non stop for an hour about travels to Asia, our degrees, future travel plans and how views regarding travelling. We were even talking about how we were both not mainstream and had a common interest in crochet. I felt like I really vibed with him and that we could be compatible. We were even talking about the aspects of travelling that aren't safe and how different countries were different. Then, the night we met was when we got affectionate as in holding hands in the stairway standing really close to each other. Then we shared our first kiss, held hands as we walked down the stairs to the first level to cuddle and be more affectionate. Then, we spent time with our friends upstairs back on the rooftop. Then we spoke about going on a first date and to go bouldering for it. He was telling me that he was a bit awkward with affection because it was all new to him.

Fast forward, we went on our first date, and I felt like we really hit it off again. Conversations were easy, we were both initiating conversations about our interests, got really affectionate and bouldering together. We were talking about the foods we liked and had that in common. We were getting to know each other that day and he was initating light touches on my nose and I was initiating kisses, cuddles and other forms of affection. Whenever we sat down or walked together he was initiating hand holding and cuddling with me. I was always asking him if I was ever making him feel uncomfortable because it's his first ever date and stuff and he mentioned being a bit awkward with affection. He said he'd let me know if he felt uncomfortable. And then I mentioned how he felt uncomfortable about texting frequently after meeting and he said don't worry we will find the right balance. Then we got dinner and it was enjoyable again. I felt comfortable and safe with him and then we cuddled and kissed at a reserve. We both agreed to go on a 2nd date and he initiated the idea to go ice skating. Then, a couple of days later he said that he didn't want to pursue a relationship with me anymore and it had nothing to do with me but it was just how he felt. It was so sudden. I asked if we could chat, even tried calling him, for clarity and he ghosted me.

What do you guys think? Was he into me but realised he didn't want to have a serious relationship with me in general? Is this very sudden?

[randomxx]

Hi there op and l'm really sorry things turned around.

l can't see it being anything you've done at all although maybe just hold back a bit on the affection or kissing stuff and let it come more from the guy first. l don't mean being cold or anything you can be warm and close and receptive but l've always felt as a bloke myself, anything more is better coming from him early on bc if he's really feeling it even if shy, he should be working on it. ln a sitch like that if your game you could give it a little nudge showing him your receptive yeah but more's best coming from him if he's feeling romantically about you.

Thing is otherwise it's a bit hard to read where he may be really at in anything more if it's all just coming to him he could be just going along with it for the moment type thing.

But please don't take that part as anything bad it's not what changed things if they have changed.

My guess is he just wasn't feeling it romantically orrrrrr- he might've gotten scared . Yaknow, sometimes something starts and later he or she might feel a bit of a panic about it and back off , l know that sounds a contradiction but it happens. lf that';s the case you'll prob hear from him again once he settles himself down, few days, a wk. lf he's not feeling it romantically sorry but he'll prob back away from here.

Like l was saying though you didn't really do  anything wrong , it's just that if he isn't , yaknow, sometimes sure we can have a nice time with someone get along well and feel really comfortable but that doesn't always mean we feel that way romantically too yaknow,  you'd get that same with another guy yourself too.

Anywayyyy, give it a bit of time see if he pops up again and if he does ask him what's going on .

Take care

rx