welcome to beyond blue.
this space is as good as any. when I first joined, I put my thread into the welcome section, and as I posted more, my thread would move between different areas in the forums - but that was because as more information was available about it (through my story) it would change. In short, you don't have the worry.
In relation to your marriage, is there anyone that can talk to about what has happened?
And if not, you can always use this spot as a starting space. I will listen, and likely ask a few questions about you etc. Know this is a safe space, where you will not be judged, and you will be accepted by all.
‘I really feel for you, my ex husband ended our marriage suddenly just over a year ago after 12 years of marriage so I totally understand what you’re going through right now. Things will eventually get easier, it is important to recognise that, and i really suggest you go and see a psychologist as soon as possible so you can talk to someone. It did help me, just to get it out to someone unrelated to your personal circle. I was full of such rage and sadness that I couldn’t see straight, and all of that is completely understandable, whatever you are feeling is. Also do you have a good friend who could be of help and support to you?
‘I would say that for now, you need to put some support things in place for yourself, as whatever happens with the relationship, you need to look after your well-being at this point. It’s hard to be able to talk to your partner at this point, my ex had another woman also so it was impossible to get any level of truth and insight there. Only now is he actually seeing what he did in a realistic light.
‘I hope some of that is of help, wishing you the best of luck and please take care of yourself during this terrible time and also know there are lots of people out there who know what you’re going through and have come out the other side ok.