Hi, welcome
The most important thing ATM is your mental well being, it trumps any other topic now. Many of us here have been in your situations and us champions here are indeed here to support members that they themselves have experienced. So here is a list of matters of priority-
1/ The fact is that while under stress and fearing the worst, whatever the end result of your marriage, your situation will be vastly different in months to come and the trauma will largely subside. This will leave you happier and grateful that your life will improve with all the wonders of life ahead of you including your daughter and extended family. It is most important to get things into perspective and allow your grief of the situation to go through its processes.
2/ A visit to your GP is most important. We are mere mortal, we cannot expect ourselves to be able to deal with life changing events.
3/ Sometimes with couples its a "straw that breaks the camels back" meaning your suggestion might not be the only issue that has troubled your husband. Also suggesting to seek "medical help" can be taken negatively. If and when it is appropriate couples counselling would be beneficial if he agrees. If he doesnt agree to attend then attend yourself if only to learn techniques and ways to seek clarity on matters.
4/ During this period it is best to keep busy, projects, hobbies, social events, they will all keep your mind off the situation that you have limited control.
5/ Time. Allow him a lot of time to settle.
6/ If the worst comes whereby he is adamant there will be no reunion then the matter is out of your control and influence. That means planning your own life direction.
So I sincerely hope you get the support you need and it all starts with your GP.
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DAWN WILL ALWAYS COME
Trauma is the dark side of every sunset
There's never rain without it being wet
But there's always a dawn that follows along
And if you choose, there is always song
For the dreams of us all are not guaranteed
And we hope we always do agree
But the nature of us humans bit by bit
Life will always be- what we make of it
So gather your calm and try to take care
That rising sun will always be there
Along with its shadow and all it takes
Life will be great again when the dawn breaks
For you are special and it will take time
And in time you will be fine
Whatever the outcome others love you and you them
Just like a flower we all need a stem...
TonyWK
