Marriage break up

[K34n]

Hi 

Just wanting to know 

Since covid started I have been going down hill.

My wife lost her business and I lost mine job due work place injury.

We sold our house and went to move interstate but realised it wasn't for us.

My wife went back to college to learn a new career in 21,22 as hairdresser.

I found a job locally.we had lived in a caravan park for 5months  and we bought a duplex to live in 

My wife was unhappy with hairdressing and applied for a women's driver's academy to get a job through a company and got it they supplied training to get a truck licence and when she did she started full time 

Away from home 13hrs a day and she would get home and just sleep.

I felt I was loosing her I felt unloved.

Came mothers day this year she wanted to go away with a friend for weekend for a present.

I was lost I started asking questions why with someone else we hadn't had time away for just us together and she wanted to do this with someone else I got really sick that night didn't receive any messages nothing and I lost it .

Not knowing the didn't have reception. 

Any way we had starting to get along again.

Every 2 to 3 weekends she would go to a BBQ on Saturdays with her work friends I was not invited through these.

So anyway about 3 weeks ago she said she I'd going to 50 and 60 year old birthday party and would be staying the night.I thought I was strong and said ok.

We had been getting along a bit better including more physical contact.

Until Sunday night when she was going to bed and she said she is staying for the weekend .Then I asked some questions the place she was saying at is the 50 year olds birthday who is single.My heart broke.

I felt hollow lost thinking the worst then I get a message the same night my best friends wife past away.

Everything was ripping through my head.

I e lost my wife told her I felt jealous lost hollow angry 

Because 30 years ago my first wife cheated on me then my girlfriend after that.

I was thinking here I go again.

Asking why she said I had trust issues and that I don't trust her and all she did is ever love me .I know she did 

And I loved her.

I asked who else was going to the party she said some people with partners .and I said why wasn't I going and she said you won't asked and she just wants to go on her own with out me.

I asked if she was ashamed of me and didn't love me and I t really made her turn away from me.

I lost

[white knight]

Hi K, welcome

Trust and openness is so much a part of our needs as spouses that we deserve it and should demand it if there is any hint of it escaping.

In this case it is clear you are suspicious and upon voicing that you are not supplied enough guarantees to satisfy your needs. This is unacceptable. All you deserve is the truth and enough information to satisfy you.

In such cases some people contract private investigators to get the information they require.

I think its important not to interact the death of your mates wife and the situation with your wife. It is like the straw that broke the camels back but try to separate them. 

So, I'm sorry you are in this situation but pursuing the truth is justified by any means eg insisting you go along for the weekend isnt an unusual request. 

TonyWK

[K34n]

So I didn't really associate the matter with her she understood that part. And it was linked it just hit me all at once.

Even If I had in previous relationships they had affairs behind my back. This situation just bought it all back and I just said how I felt. And she said I had trust issues and never really loved her.but I did (do).

And she said what she wants in life is different from what I want and She wants to independently and fill her dreams .I asked can I be with that and she said she doesn't know.

[K34n]

I am so in love with her we've been together 26 years But said I don't know her and I don't love her and I don't trust her. BUT I do and when I told her she said I don't and she is sorrow that the love she gave was not enough .I miss her and I'm breaking into pieces