Making friends in your 60s

[Empathic]

I have never been one to have a large friend group and over time have been OK with that.  However, I am now in my mid 60s and have only one friend who makes any effort. Unfortunately she is in ill health and lives about an hour away so catching up is infrequent.  I have tried to expand my friendships by joining clubs, volunteer groups and reconnecting with acquaintances but I simply cannot find my place in any of them.  I find most people my age extremely boring and all they want to talk about is holidays, grand kids or church.   The fun ones all appear to be drinkers and while I've had some amusing evenings and certainly dont have a problem with alcohol, the pub scene isn't for me and I find it tiring having to explain over and over why I don't drink (medical reasons) 

It is so difficult to get out there and meet new people.  Everywhere I go, people are already locked into their friend groups and I end up off to one side feeling lonelier than I would be at home!  I'm tired of doing everything one is told to make friends - it doesn't work!   

[Guest_96002049]

Hello, I'm new to this forum and this is my first posting.  I wanted to thank you for reaching out.  I'm in much the same position.  In mid 60s, non-drinker, no grand kids etc and no friends at all.  Any friends I did have, got sick of my depression or were not really friends at all, just using me for as long as needed.  

I'm sorry about the troubles you are having and I feel your pain.

I wish I had some answers for you but I haven't figured out how to find new friends either.

I just wanted to reach out to say hello and let you know you're not alone.

Do you have pets or hobbies?  I'd love to know more about you.

Take care.  I will be thinking of you,

C😊