Losing friendship

[PepTalk9]

Hi all, 
I have been friends with Michael for about 13 years, been friends through university and onto our lives after. He has always been a good friend but has always talked about others behind their back even people he would consider friends and has at times did not respect my opinion or me. I have known his family for roughly the same time, his parents and his sister have not been the closest. The issue arises as i have been invited to his sister wedding but after she asked Michael if i should come and not because she wanted me there, i felt pressured to say yes, she asked me in person. I have always had severe anxiety and depression and it has taken me alot of time and effort to get my life together, like getting a job, getting into a relationship etc and every step of the way Michael and to some extent his sister (i dont see her often) have made remarks like "i cant believe you have a girlfriend" or "a job" but have said it repeatedly to the point of making it sound like mocking and not genuine excitement, i have asked them to stop but its obvious the lack of respect is there.
My family have gotten involved and have advised that if i go to the wedding they will lose respect for me and if i dont i will lose a social circle. I do have to note the wedding is in a week.
I do want to note that after an incident that happened early this year i have been distancing myself from Michael but not to the point of cutting them out of my life all together due to my anxiety and depression i have not made any friends and the friends i did make were through Michael. 
I guess the crux is my anxiety is going crazy on the idea of starting new in my 30's after ending a friendship of more than 10 years

I normally see my psychologist for these issues but given the time frames now, ill see her in a month 

I hope this has made sense 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I was a bit taken back that your parents "that if i go to the wedding they will lose respect for me", which I think isnt right. I assume you are still living at home and if so it might be time to move out and get full independence. I hope I'm not speaking out of hand suggesting that. You are in your 30's and can make your own decisions.

I'm suspicious that Michaels family are negative and over critical people and there is a good chance they would think like that with anyone. Just because you have anxiety and depression likely doesnt mean its the reason.

Regardless of you being in your 30's you cant compromise so much on a permanent commitment, there is a lot of singles out there that likely would find you good relationship material. I think you have the wit and heart that deserves the right person. Hinging your future on Michael that isnt quite a good fit is a recipe for disaster imo.

The other thing is- if you feel uncomfortable for any reason with the way the invite has arrived to you, consider not going. The fact that you havent been welcomed into Michaels family to be comfortable is reason enough.  His family needs to look closely at their treatment of others. If Michael loves you enough he'll try to comfort you and sort it out.

TonyWK