Loosing my relationship with my children's mother to realise I am the problem

[Dave992]

Hey everyone. Hope you are all having a great weekend. 2 months ago my partner left me saying she had no interest in reconciliation. I was never physically abusing but I've learned that I was distant and un loving of her and the children. I've had depression and ignored the fact thinking that is just how it is. I've made active efforts to change this now but still feel horrible that I have hurt the person I love. I'm wondering how people have dealt with this before in the past.

[benji777]

After a seperation its best to go no contact for a while. Youve got kids so thats tougher and will suck trying to heal when you may see her often still? Id be trying ways to avoid her, such as collect kids from school and not from her place and drop them at school etc 

Anyways with hope of a reconnection? She has disposed of you decided youre not what shes after or shes found someone and thinks the grass is greener there, may soon not be 

Anyways id be focusing on you and upgrading you and preparing yourself for someone new who likes you the way you are... Work on yourself and the good times will come soon enough again... Enhance yourself make it your new mission...forget the ex seek the new and renew yourself, enhance the elements we all have in our lives...your home, your work, your car, your health, your fitness, your sports/hobbies, your studies? Your overall sex appeal and even trying to be a more awesome dad if you're not already

Thats a bloke to bloke response...therell hopefully be more professional advice from smarter people on here but thats my 2 bobs