LGBTQI+ divorce and separation

[Ash-H]

My wife and I got married in October 2022. 
a few months later my wife revealed that she was unhappy in our relationship and had been for a while and that she had pushed it down. 
I’ve been hoping we’d work it out and get back together but that’s not what she wants. 
I just wish I could go back in time and fix all the problems we had and work it out so that she wasn’t unhappy. I’m not ready to let her go and I still love her so much but she’s made it clear she’s done. And now I don’t know how to cope. I don’t want it be done. I want to fix it and even though I know I can’t I just want to. I’m trying to do all of the right things to process my grief and move on but it just is so exhausting and is taking so long. I know you can’t force these things but I just want the grief to end. 

[white knight]

Hi, Ash, welcome

I'm really sorry for what you are going through. I really hope I can help. 

Had much heartache after 3 long term relationships, 2 kids separated when young etc etc. Married 12 years this time seems to be working much better. The heartache each time was so painful.

After the marriage to my mother of my kids ended I was totally lost. Of course I grieved for my full time fatherhood and town, dog etc. But after 8 weeks of getting fit in a small regional town I hit jackpot. I saw a block of land and built my own kithome. I was so busy I stumbled onto the answer for weening myself off the grief- distraction. However you go about it be it hobbies, sport, visiting friends or vegetating on the banks of a river, distraction is incredible in its simplicity and wonder. I write poetry so writing a short story of your experience can help. 

Grief however has to run its course but if you have this distraction process in your mind you just might take up those ideas when its time.

You seem to be a nice person that feel rejected- well you are worth love, you are worth affection and to be in love, you are an individual that can move mountains... you will be ok.

Repost anytime

TonyWK

[white knight]

LIGHTHOUSE OF LOVE

Life is like a staircase
That has seen better days
Like inside an old lighthouse
Belted with ocean haze

And every now and then
One begins to squeak
On your way to true love
At the lighthouse peak

But there will always be one step that will break
Even with all precautions you take
They might come often

Like every breathe you take

Collect your tools of trade
And hammer at your will
Look up at that silhouette
Where true hearts are fulfilled

" You won't fall down
You're entitled to your say
You'll repair this broken dream
Then you'll be on your way"

You grab your tools and bag
And hold you head high
Ready to repair the next step
On your way to the sky

Upon that last step
You throw your bag away
Reaching another broken heart
With the rescue of the waves

You fall onto your caring knees
And then see your soulmates face
Together you walk into the sunlight
In one eternal embrace

You are at a broken step

I have hammer and give you nails

Repair your broken dreams

Whatever it entails...

TonyWK 

[white knight]

🙂

Hi Ash... wondering if you are ok. reply only if your feel like it.  

TonyWK