Hi there, lilly. I can't help but agree with Jess on this one. He sounds as though it's his way or the highway. He has past issues with an ex. If you were to live with him, and you have a disagreement, does he 'walk out' because he thinks he's not getting his own way? Alarm bells are really clanging on this. It could be as Jess said, depression makes him have to be in charge. He says he wants to live with you, then reneges, I would stay exactly as you are. Be friends (if you want to), but keep your options open. He's unstable and needs help. You are too close to be objective. When someone goes to counselling, the counsellor can help them decide because they're not emotionally involved. You're emotionally involved and don't want to say or do anything to hurt him, that's completely understandable. I'm not trying to upset you, please don't be offended. Suggest in as nice a way as possible, that you both 'step back' till he's sure about what he wants. Don't be so eager to 'fall in' with whatever he wants to do just to please him. You have feelings too.
You need to be with people who understand what you're feeling so you won't feel 'left out'. Whatever happens, I hope it's right for you and him.
