I need help before year 12 starts

[donnie123]

Hi im Tom, turning 17 in about 2 days, relationships suck, and no i dont mean to overstep my boundaries because by no means have i experienced any pain or anguish as these divorcees and widows, but i need help, this seems a while back now but back in april i broke up with my girlfriend, why? because she was ill, in the head, she was horrible, and yet i loved her and cared for her and ill i wanted to do was make her happy, as it would appear i do right now. so theres one main issue what do i do with that, she hates me, and uses guys just for fun.

My next problem is something a little bit worse, after being servely hurt from the breakup i decided to go for a "rebound" and yes its a horrible idea to get over someone, but something ended up going wrong and i got a girl pregnant, yes yes im horrible and deserve to die, since then she has got an abortion and everything is gone now, but this whole year my friends hate me , everyone hates me, everyone calls me names because the girl i had a half a year relationship was 1 1/2 years younger??! , and with the pregnant things schools just gotten so much worse and i have no clue what to do.

To anyone who actually took the time to read this, you are special and amazing and you are worth every bit of love people give you 🙂

[Quercus]

Hi Donnie,

Others have said so much already but I wanted to reply too because I'm a both a Mum and someone who works at a school. As a gardener and cleaner I see a lot that (students hide/perform for the teachers but don't think to do this around me).

It is an eye-opener being an adult at a school and often upsets me. Some experiences are the same and others have changed so dramatically. Technology is one that worries me. Students can't escape being bullied or left out and are constantly reminded of mistakes. Social media allows people who would never have the guts to bully openly a way to be cruel. And it follows you everywhere.

So when you said everyone hates you and is being horrible I found myself very worried for you and your safety. Especially over the holidays. Often adults don't understand how distressing it can be knowing your peers are still bitching but not knowing what to expect in the new year. A friend of mine's daughter experienced this and we were very concerned about her with good reason.

You don't need to reply unless you want... but I feel so worried and need to ask... have you been feeling suicidal? If you need it there is a team here who we can ask to check in with you privately. Would that help you?

At your age (I'm 34) we still had the refuge of going home and escaping for a while. Have you been harassed at home on social media?

You mentioned your parents won't care/ take it seriously and that unfortunately I can understand. Many parents have no idea what it feels like to be hurting mentally let alone how to support a young adult, especially a young man. But there are options. Places like Headspace and Orygen support young adults like yourself and can guide your parents learn how to support you too. Have you looked in to either of these?

I hope you feel able to keep posting as long as you need to. Noone here is going to judge you. None of us are saints here either. What matters to me deeply is that you have somewhere you feel safe to talk. If that is here we're listening.

Nat