I found out she was the feeling the happiest to let go of me

[edensgarden]

hai pretty sad update I found out she was the happiest ever to cut me an her friends off i dont understand we had such a good time to now nothing I cant help but miss her I keep crying daily thinking bout what it could of been everytime I talk to others im reminded of her precence. 😕

[Croix]

Dear Edensgarden~

WElcome here to hte Forum, a good idea as you will find others if you look around h=who have had to cope wiht somewhat similar problems.

It really is hearbreaking to have someone say htey love you, appear to be hapt=y in your company, and whom you have supported during a particularly hard time in her life.

Now you are no longer part of her life, she may have I guess found a new circle, perhaps ones who are trans too.

Apart from advising oyu to try to build up your social life to help you se there are more in the world -and to distract you, the other thing I'd suggest is to try to see people, not as girlfriend, but make judgments, see if htey are kind, courageous, thoughtful and trustworthy, and who genuinely like being wiht you. Remember they too will be looking.

They may remain a friend, or may be something closer, however it is their qualities that are important.

If you would like to say how you get on that would be great

Croix

[sbella02]

Edensgarden, I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this right now. I hope you can find some comfort here on the forums.

It can be difficult to process when somebody leaves our life in a very sudden way, particularly if they held a special place in our lives for a while. There's a kind of grieving period that tends to happen, so it may be good to consider your feelings as such during this time.

It's important to surround yourself with people you love, whether you feel comfortable discussing your feelings with them, or just enjoying their presence. Being with people while you're processing the loss of somebody in your life can be empowering when you're healing. 

Journaling can also help you make sense of your feelings, or talk yourself through what you're going through, or even just to let out your frustrations. 

Make sure you're allowing yourself the space and time to cry, listening to your body is always good when you're struggling. 

If you feel like you need to share more of your story with us to help you process everything, please feel free, we're here to support you. Make sure you're also being kind to yourself during this time, your feelings are valid and your mental health and wellbeing are valuable.

All the best, SB