How to stop being alone
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Hello BobbyOz, just because you have asked three girls out doesn't mean there isn't anybody out there who isn't attracted to you.
We are always tempted in asking out the best looking person, rather than someone who is more suited towards us, and when this happens then your love will grow stronger and they will be the best looking person because you both like doing the same activities and have similar tastes.
Take pride in looking for someone like this and not the most beautiful person, because everybody else will want to go out with them.
Hello Dear BobbyOz,
A very warm and caring welcome to the forums...
I am sorry you feel alone...
I do agree with what Geoff has said...“just because you have asked 3 girls out, doesn’t mean there isn’t anyone out their who isn’t attracted to you”..
One way you could try to meet like minded people..both boys and girls..is to join a group that holds your interest...ie: walking groups, cycling groups or a group that’s passionate about the hobbies or interests that your passionate about...I’m wondering if this is something that you might try....
People with the same interests...have similar things to talk about which is a great start for friendships to develop....getting to know each other first and enjoying each other’s company...
Kind thoughts Dear BobbyOz....with my care.
sometimes in todays world we are told by cultural narratives that having a relationship is the most important thing. I Think this makes us feel like we are inadequate.
But i see where you are coming from too
I am 28 and haven't had a relationship. It used to bother me. Reddit can be good but also can be challenging because it may lead us down rabbit holes
I read this today: "There's a difference to tease out between really wanting certain experiences in your life, and feeling that you aren't a worthy human being for not having had them, which just isn't true."
I love it and I think its a great piece of advice too.
I do hope you begin to see yourself for what you are my friend - worthy - regardless of relationship status.
But also too - good on you for asking those girls out. That takes guts dude. Doesn't matter that it is a rejection because in the end we learn from those experiences.