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[Guest_89602191]

Hi,

I recently moved country. I have no real friends, family or anyone that checks up on me. I’m really lonely and think of how lonely I am everyday walking home from work. I live with my dad his partner and her children but get the feeling they don’t really like me anymore. When I try to converse it’s either one worded replies, me starting the conversation or they go into their rooms. They talk amongst themselves but it’s different when I’m there. It was good when I first came but now it’s progressively getting worse. I am saving to move out and rent my own place but I know I’m not financially stable. I know it’s silly I shouldn’t be thinking like this but nobody checks up on me, nobody asks how I am and I always make sure to ask them. I’m so drained from it all. I feel like everyone hates me and I try so hard with them all like buying things or food or bringing one of the children out for the day for the company and to also get them out. I just don’t know what to do because I care so much for them but I know and see they don’t me. It’s killing me inside. I know I shouldn’t be complaining as I’m in a beautiful country but I feel so lonely in a house full of people. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi Guest_89602191
 
Welcome to the Forums! We ate glad that you have found us here during a tough time.
 
There is nothing ‘silly’ about  feeling the way that you are at the moment. Moving countries is a huge change and can bring with it so many different challenges. Even if it is a beautiful country, it does not negate the fact that it is a really big shift to your life. It is totally understandable to be feeling a range of emotions. It can be made even harder when it feels like no one is looking out for you.
 
We hope that you can treat yourself gently while you adjust and that you can find something – even something tiny – that brings you a sense of joy each day.
 
Our lovely Forums community is always here to talk and to support you through this. You can also reach out to us if you need some support, too, on 1300 22 4636 or on our webchat.  
 
Thank you again for sharing here. Take good care of yourself during this really challenging time.
 
Kind regards
Sophie M
 

[Meladjusted]

Morning guest,

How are you today? 

I have also been feeling lonely of late and I often feel I don't belong with my family.  Today, I decided to come here and try and find some steps to work through it. I'm glad to have found your post

Going to family events and seeing they would rather I wasn't there is something I've always been aware of.  Thankfully, I have never particularly cared what others think of me but I realised recently I've always been friends back up plan.  It has hurt me deeply to realise I've never had a true best friend.  I also realise I can't look back and taint my good memories.

Enough about me, I'm here to listen and hopefully help.  Do you have a passion you could get involved in outside of work?  I am a crafter and love nature so I've joined groups (only online, I'm an introvert) that helps me connect with people. 

Find what you love and the people you meet will hopefully align with you and become your new family.  I've never believed family needs to be blood related.

All the best and reach out.