Help needed in dealing with my copycat mother-in-law
Dear Gloss. Love the name, is it Gloss by name and nature, bet it is. How long have you been married? Does your hubby have siblings, or is he the only child? When the only or eldest son gets married, quite often MIL in particular either 'freezes' DIL out altogether or 'bends over backwards' trying to welcome new DIL into the family. Maybe your in-laws don't really have a 'life' of their own and desperately want to be part of yours. Yes, I agree it is frustrating. How does hubby feel, is he encouraging them or does he want to just be with you? If he is encouraging them, you're going to have to let him know as gently as possible that, even though you love them, you really want time just with him. You're going to have to tread very carefully here, it's a very sticky situation where in-laws could turn on you thinking you're trying to come between them and their son. Can you talk to hubby, or would writing down what you want to say help you. Try first talking to hubby about how you feel, don't 'blow up' remember they're his parents, he's going to protect them. Try not putting him in a position where he feels he has to choose. You're basically going to have to 'walk on eggshells' on this one.
Best wishes on this.
Ah! I can only imagine how annoying that would get!! Have you spoken to her about it? I know it would be a bit of a difficult conversation or maybe even a bit awkward but it might help this situation ? It wouldn't hurt in trying to talk about it to her would it ? At least if you were able to talk to her about it at least she will know that it is annoying you and that maybe it is time for her to find her own things to do?
It's great that you get along well when she isn't being a "copycat" that's really great but yeah think it's time for her to pick her own hobbies, maybe you could suggest some to her.. different ones, something that you aren't doing?
I do hope this situation gets resolved soon I can imagine how stressful it must be for you. Goodluck hopefully soon your in laws find something of their own to do. Let us know how you go, and keep smilling 🙂
- Lori 🙂
are going to this place or that place, presumably by your MIL asking her son, your husband or by your husband telling
her where you are going, maybe out of duty, in other words telling mum everything about the marriage, I'm sticking
my head out saying that, but if this is the case then you have to tell your husband not to say a word, because you want
a marriage that stays only between you and your husband.
Alternatively tell her you are going to place X, while in fact you are going somewhere else, I know that that's telling
a white lie, however once again if your husband is telling her, tell him not to. Geoff. x