HI, welcome
Yes, in this modern society its quite different to the middle of last century. People are busy and not as attuned to others struggles as they used to be.
It is kind of you to take an interest in others struggles and your relationships will become closer as time goes on because of your empathy, the issue become though, why arent they returning the empathy? A few reasons-
- Not all people are empathetic but they might be kind and caring.
- A best of friends asks questions of others like "how are you"? and notice changes "you dont look ok, is everything alright"?
- Expand your friendships because the more people you meet the greater chance of meeting more compatible people hopefully with empathy.
- People are busy now, its why counsellors, therapists are sometimes better to go to seek guidance.
- Seeking friends help its best to directly ask a question... "Hi Jane, can you advise me on something? see you know family stuff better than me so if your brother criticised your makeup techniques how would you take it"? you might be surprised with their answers. This technique is like - direct query/praise/question and advice all in one question.
If you feel like an introvert or you have hurdles in speaking to people, thats not unusual, we cant all be social butterflies. Remember though, people like praise, asking them questions like have you got the weekend free for family? which is what I ask cashiers, they generally like chatting as it breaks up their day. Practice makes perfect.
"Breaking the ice with people isnt all difficult... only the first dozen words" TonyWK
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