Feeling lost 😔😔😔Is AA the answer
Dear Frankie Rose~
You and your x and drugs plus alcohol sound a pretty bad mix. I guess it is a case that decent people when under the influence become so different they end up impossible to be with. Threatening you with a knife under and circumstances is simply not on.
You are both adults, you both have alcohol and drug problems and you both want to be together. Do you think it might be an idea for each of you to clean up first then get together after? It would be miserable and lonely in the mean-time, that's true. However you would not have the arguments, violence and resorting to substances as a result. Wanting to be together is a powerful thing and might be a goal that gives you strength to do a proper job of beating drink and drugs.
What do you think?
Rehab, AA and organizations like it can work if the person really wants, but it is them, not the organization, that does the work. Yes you do grow up doing that sort of task and end up more mature. With luck it might not be too late for either of you.
Going to AA is good, but only if you want to stop drinking, otherwise it's a waste of time, but if you are borderline then it could convince you to give it up.
Your doctor can prescribe either of you some medication which will holt any desire to drink or to take drugs but this will only work if you definitely want to stop, and if you decide to do this, it would be a good idea to get some counselling with someone who handles addiction.
You both love each other and it would need one of you to be very strong to stop and then help your partner give up both the alcohol and the drugs, to stay focused and remain calm, so I wonder whether this is possible.
I really would like to keep this discussion going and I say this because one reason my marriage ended was
There's much more to this. Geoff.