Hi, welcome
I have a past with experience in rude changeovers. For 14 years I tolerated my ex with her attitude. However, although I tolerated it, I didnt have to if I found it hurtful. I had the view that nothing she can say can hurt me but ladies like yourself are not protected and are easy targets for a man seeking revenge.
So, if you are within eyesight of your child as they exit his car and they are safely approaching you, there is no obligation on your part to communicate with him. If he wants to communicate with you then I suggest you tell him that text is his only avenue for such communication. That way you get less hurt and you have it written down.
You say both sets of grandparents want him to have less access to your child. That wont hold up in court, you'll need proof that his parenting is harmful to the child. Do you have proof? What is his parenting skills lacking? I'm experience din court procedures and everything goes on proof, thats why opinions are discounted because one parent can simply say the other isnt a good parent.
I've seen people calm down once they get another partner. I've noticed a parent eventually drop their attitude and when that occurs the other parent finds it an opportunity to touch base with them and meet at a cafe to discuss their children. This is of course not always possible but ideally a flexible visitation arrangement is good if it works.
I'll wait for your reply.
TonyWK
