Dealing with Teenagers
I don't have teenage kids, but I was 1 of 4 kids and all of us lived at home with mum for some time after we turned 18.
In our house, once we left school we had to pay board, although it was only $50 per week. So we all had part time or casual jobs. However I know this kind of work is a lot harder to come by at the moment, especially if your kids are studying and cannot commit to a lot of shifts.
We also were required to help out around the house, cleaning cooking etc. However this started from a much earlier age.
On the other side of the coin, my mums partner had adult kids at home too (in a separate house) and he just left them alone to do what they wanted. He also didn't clean up after them, buy groceries or cook for them, or anything else. It worked for him. It would have driven my mum crazy.
I think it's definitely your decision about how to run your household. If you feel as though your kids aren't pulling their weight then yes, do something about it.
I think helicopter parenting is about not allowing your kids to have experienced on their own. Setting rules and boundaries is different.
Welcome to the forum.
This is as you can see a caring, friendly and supportive place.
It is a while since my children were teenagers but like Jess they all had jobs or were studying and helped a bit around the house.
I am wondering what your teenagers are like when not on holidays . Are they studying and more cooperative around the house. . I am thinking are they just relaxing during their holidays but during term time they study or work hard.
I agree with Jess it is your house and you set the rules and boundaries .
it is hard being a parent as you love them so much but by teaching them to be responsible and to become adults you are showing how much you love them