Dear IIEK,
It’s so painful to loose a loved one…I was a carer for my husband when he was diagnosed with cancer, unfortunately he passed away only a few months after his diagnosis…I really wasn’t prepared for that…No matter how sick a love one gets, even if we know and try to prepare ourself for their passing from this life it doesn’t matter because devastation always takes us into the deep soul feeling hurt….
My children also ignored and also blamed me…not for his death but for their upbringing (DV)…It took months for them to reconnect with me…Them thinking I was pleased he was gone…which I wasn’t and still not…even though he wasn’t a nice person I loved him deeply and so did my children…so much sadness and heartbreak happened for me with my children after he passed…I pushed them in a way for months, because I wanted and needed to hear their voices…nothing worked….then feeling defeated I sent them both a message saying how much I loved their father and them and if they ever need me I am always here for them….They did in their own time begin to contact me, very rarely at first until today I have a fairly good relationship with them…I don’t see them much as they live 8 hours drive away…they both work 6 days a week so I have come to accept that as enough…it hurts deeply because when their dad was alive, they were regular visitors…
It takes time for the hurt of loosing your husband to ease, but it does, even if it’s hard for you to believe that right now….they remain in our hearts forever…try hard lovely lady to only remember the good and beautiful times you both shared…
Thinking of you with care and kindness….and sending you gentle caring hug 🤗..
Grandy..
