Boyfriend with ROCD broke up with me, but I’m not sure if that’s the reason or something else/

[Daisyblue]

Recently my bf of a year broke up with me for multiple not exactly clear reasons, and I’ve been left trying to understand. He claimed that “we had no spark, our conversation was boring” and “he feels he is too young to be tied down.” He never told me about these feelings properly until the day he broke up with me, but he still clearly cared and seemed so torn in his decision, said he still loved me cried for me hugged me. I want to work through things with him, but I don’t want to invade personal space after we broke things off. I understand these could be legitimate feelings but it sucks that he won’t try work through them with me, and I do wonder if it is ROCD even though he seems to thinks it’s not, despite having rocd in multiple other aspects of our relationship. I wish I could try again and message him tell him how I feel…

[Sophie_M]

Hey Daisyblue,  

Welcome to the Forums and thank you for your post. We're sorry to hear how tough things are feeling right now. Breakups can be incredibly challenging and leave a lot of unanswered questions, and that can be really hard to sit with. One of the challenges is in wanting to try to work things through while also respecting the other person's space, especially when the breakup is fresh and emotions are high.  

Is there anyone that you're able to seek support from during this time? Breakups can bring up a lot of emotions and you deserve some extra support if you need it. You are always welcome to reach out to the Beyond Blue Support Service on 1300 22 4636 anytime, or via webchat: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support     

How have things been since you posted? Feel free to let us know how you're travelling this week. We're here to support you through this!  💙

Thank you again for your courage and strength in sharing your story.  

Kind regards,   

Sophie M