Am I doing something wrong?
I kind of read an air of despair in your post.
What kind of "weird vibes" do you think you could be giving off?
You might prefer to get some other POVs than mine lol.
I have a very basic set of ideas around partnering; am totally against online dating & pretence.
So I'm not going to say to change anything about yourself!
What I'm a strong believer in is finding and doing anything and everything you LOVE doing, and DO THEM.
Brainstorm a whole huge bucket list of great, fun things you want to try!
Then get out there.
IMO the most attractive people are those living their BEST LIFE!
They ooze happiness, fun, JOY, contentedness and self-assuredness, probably alot more....
Good post by Ecomama but I disagree about online dating.
My daughter met her now husband online and he is a gem.
Furthermore, online dating is like a big filter meaning you reduce timewasting by dating non compatible people. You do want that partner with the same goals, age group and interests.
Hi Von is lost.
It can be hard to find the right one in relationships etc these days, so I don't think it's you, many people have this problem. I don't think you're weird and give off weird vibes at all, that's just your anxiety talking. I'm sure you're good in a relationship and can offer good things.
Good luck finding the right one, I hope you find someone who makes you happy.
Hello Von is lost, failed relationships are not necessarily your fault and for the past year and a bit it's been rather difficult, so this hasn't been of any help as people have been nervous and very precarious as to who they want to date, so you can't blame yourself, meeting someone with a mask on.
You hear many different reports on dating sites some positive and some not so good, but you won't know the person until you meet them and Tony's situation was definitely a fortunate one he's very pleased about, but the longer you believe that it's been four years is only going to make you the person you aren't and more hesitate.
In five years time, I wonder whether these four years are going to be remembered or just a distance memory, relax and stop counting the days.
Hello Von, life is strange, when we're married or in a relationship, people want to be let loose and to be alone, realising that there are many commitments involved, while being alone, people want to be in a relationship until they find the person isn't what they had imagined to be.
I wonder if there is any balance between the two of these, well maybe but you won't know until you've experienced this yourself, but remember your thoughts can constantly change.
I was married for 25 years and we achieved a great deal, and definitely loved it, not forgetting the bad times that always seem to dominate the situation, but have now been single for 20 years and would never live with another person again, I have my own freedom, do what I want, when I want and only answer to my puppie.
You can still feel lonely in a relationship or a marriage, that doesn't change, even at work or being at uni with surrounding 'friends' around you.