Hi all !
In 2019 I joined the forums to vent about my sadness and frustration at being prevented from seeing my two young Grandsons. I had a close relationship with them from the day of their birth. My DIL filed a malicous DVO that prevented me from seeing them which I fought to the hilt but was eventually advised by my Solicitor that the Court will usually side with the Applicant. I ended up accepting the order on a "non admissions " basis. I plunged into a deep Depression.
I'm here to give you hope that sometimes things can change.
In January of last year my DIL told my son that she didn't love him anymore and he had to leave the family home. He came back to live with my Husband and myself. To cut a long story short my DIL dragged the children (including a new granddaughter that I had not met) into some very risky living circumstances. In February she asked my son to take the boys to also live with us as the person she was moving in with would only accommodate my granddaughter. We quickly found out that the person she was moving in with was in fact her boyfriend and the reason she asked my son to leave.
Anyway the boys are all still living with us a year and three months later. I am the primary care giver as we have encouraged our son to keep his career. It has been a pretty hard road as they have both been diagnosed with Early Chilhood Trauma as a result of what they were dragged through during the marriage breakdown. There have been lots of behavioural issues but with a lot of commitment and Therapy things are starting to come good. I wouldn't trade their hugs and I love you's for anything. My granddaughter who is 2 has also started spending overnighters with us from the beginning of the year. My husband and I are developing a great bond with her.
Your circumstances may not be the same as mine but never give up hope. Keep a close relationship with your son or daughter ....it could lead to a relationship with your Grandchildren also. Good luck to all the Grandparents out there whose hearts are literally breaking 💔
