Work sucks, I know..

[Lozrox]

So. I thought I was lucky. Job I loved. Amazing team working for me. Made a difference to the company. Smashing it. Finally I was someone my kids could be proud of. I own my own home. None of this came easy. I have a really dark past. I used to be someone I didn't like but I grew up. I didn't let trauma dictate my future or make me be who I could have become. I put my big girl boots on. I studied doing a bachelor of social science. With the intention of helping people I ended up in a factory job as a supervisor due to financial circumstances. There was someone at work who really needed my help. To give her some hope i even took her on as my 2ic. I went above and beyond. Anyway they ended up making some really bad decisions. Im talking fire on the spot call the cops and child protection. I continued to support for 2 years.

So now she wants my job. Said it to my face in front of someone.

All this time later and many many instances in between I am now in trouble for finally snapping and saying a few immature words. Yeah I know. Not great on my behalf.

(This is where the trauma and ptsd kicks in).

Who knew working with your abusive nasasitic pathetic excuses of a mother who kicked you out at 14 to have a better life with her boyfriend would suck so much.  But now it looks like she is the flavour of the week and I will be loosing my job my home everything. All for what. Being kind to someone and trying to help them out is in my blood. I would probably do it again.

The question now is. Do I be a role model for all the other people and the toxic place I work and risk losing it all or say my bad suck it up and continue in a job where I no longer feel safe, appreciate or basically human.

I have gone from being ok to really not ok. I'm not ok I can't afford to loose my job but I can't let them win. It would crush my sole and everything I believe in. 

Oh but the way I have a 11 page file on everything she has done to me. Team members who have gone to hr telling them they have been put in danger by her drinking She has a person who heard me slip up

I can't even process what is happening and why work are supporting her side. 

I don't know if I have any gas left in te tank. 

I'm not after money or to make trouble.

I don't want anything but a formal apology from the company saying sorry for the gross negligence on their behalf. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Sorry to hear of your situation, hope I can help.

I'm 68yo and in my travels due to mania etc I've had over 80 jobs and 15 professions from factories to prison guard to investigations, bar staff, military  and so on. In that time I've learned a lot about work "colleagues", the deceitful, the ladder climbers and the management. 

So the first thing that stand out is not to expect an apology from management, that would prove weakness and would be highly unusual. Secondly we have a justice system that overall works better than any alternative (communism/gulags ?) however we still live in an unjust society. Regularly on shows like A current affair, you'll see injustices play out. So in 1987 I fought against mild corruption as a dog ranger at a local council whereby they wanted my to give favouritism to a local politician, how charming, I fought it and might have won a moral victory after 12 months dedication, off work, high anxiety, suspected heart attack (was eventually found to be a panic attack), marriage strain and so on. The reward? one person in that town patted me on the back and thanked me for my efforts.

So this is for perspective, we can take the moral road but in the society in which we live nowadays it isnt worth the dedication. In the past 150 years ago when a community was 200 people it was a different story.

So, th person you mentored comes around rarely and I feel for you, but this is modern life whereby people act strange often for their own selfish benefits. Learn from it and yes, you'd do it again but you will have a few extra reservations and maybe hold back giving a person 2ic so quickly and so on. Dont change your heart, just protect it better.

That leads me to more perspective. We often hold onto our jobs when we are threatened with injustice. But there are some situations whereby the bad guy is cunning enough to succeed in manipulation of management. Then you need to allow it all to happen and get another job, try to leave on good terms. But, let management know what has happened and that if by chance they learn the true leopard spots of that person to ring you and offer you your job back. 

"Beware those that look sideways..."

"Trusting, putting faith in a work colleague prints weakness and opportunity..."

Once retired, ex workmates wont share your dining table..."

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TonyWK

[Lozrox]

Thanks for your reply. I'm at work and looking forward to reading more in-depth when I get home.

BTW I told my friend a few nights ago I needed a knight in shining armor. Maybe the knights perspective is all I really needed 😁