Why is earth so cruel?

[Guest5643]

Hi

I know no one can answer this but i dont understand why humankind was created to endlessly suffer. Its not fair. Why wasnt humankind created to feeI peace. Im realy angry with this life and so exhausted. I get this intense scared feeling for no reason like im haunting myself. Why were we all created to endure non stop mental suffering. I want my mummy back.

Lynne

[Soberlicious96]

Dear Helium,

Welcome to Beyond Blue.

I'm sorry to hear that you feel there is such suffering in the world. I am wondering though, when you said you "want your Mummy back" if that grief is a very recent thing? Would you perhaps like to talk some more about your Mum and why she's not around any more?

If you don't want to talk about that, then that's fine. Maybe there are some other things you would like to get off your chest?

I can't say that I agree that we were created just for endless suffering, but I certainly do hear you when you say that the suffering seems endless. It's for that reason that many years ago, I stopped watching the news on TV. I find the news to be distressing and all bad. to me, it's just people making money out of other people's misery. And I, much like you, have had enough misery to last me a lifetime.

Anyway, I just wanted you to know that you've been heard. And that maybe I haven't answered your question, but maybe I have helped you to know that you are not quite so alone, yeah?

Take care, and remember you can come back here as much as you like. I'll be thinking of you. xo

[MyLadyGirl]

Hi Lynne,

I am so sorry that life has been treating you unwell. When you said'I want my mummy', I assume that your in grief and need to express your deep inner feeling that your holding. You are most welcome to talk about it only if you are ready and feel too.

In your post you refer mankind to suffer. Not all mankind suffer. It's how you to choose to suffer. Mankind is here to learn what is important in life. Yes we do suffer because we allow to be suffered. If we do not bound to that suffering and give it importance we will not suffer. That's why mankind has no peace within themselves. What make one peace is discovering that mankind needs to learn reality of live. Their purpose of living here. Live here with no attachment so one can find peace within themselves. If you have attachment we suffer. When we were in the mother's stomach we were alone. When we depart, we depart alone. In between that we learn what need to be done and we live fullness. We lift ourselves based on the learning we learn and experiences.

I know it's hard to accept things but I hope you can express your feelings and that is if you are ready and willing to be helped.

[Guest5643]

Hi soberlcious

I cry out i want my mummy when i get realy scared. Sometimes i get this intense fear internaly like im being haunted on the inside. Ive talked about my mum on other threads so forgive me for not wanting to repeat it. I watch the project as my news, they some how make it fun.

Lynne

[Guest5643]

Hi myladygirl

So much i want to say so ill keep it brief. Ive reread your post over and over to make sure i havnt misread it. I fail to see how innocent children allow to be suffered nor do i see how one allows to be suffered by mental illness.

Lynne

[MyLadyGirl]

Lynne,

People with mental illness suffer because of many reason and some from an unhealthy environment. Yes this eventually develop as they grow. And No innocent should not be suffered because it's not their choice. But who are we to choose what life we want when we are baby. It's what life have chosen for me. If the environment is or was unhealthy there will be probably build in my mind and since it's been planted into the subconscious mind it become illness where the mind works over and over again till it become mentally unstable and we become disturbed. This can be overcome by talking to GP that can help you, talk to friends or talk to a helpline like BB. Saying that, it still be in the subconscious mind unless one realize it. I am sorry that I may not know what mental illness that you are suffering form but to let you know that you are not alone. There are people out there that have recovered from it. It's how we choose or want our life to be. Mental illness can be overcome if we realize this is not what we want. We need to realise that life need to move on and there is a beautiful picture out there. If we want beauty we need to create beauty within one self. We need to create beautiful chapter and you deserved that. You should give your self a chance to not let the mind over come you. Then you can see that mental illness can be over come.

[Guest5643]

Hi Myladygirl

You seem to be in a great place mentaly and kudos to you👍. Just because alot of people who are still struggling with mental illness daily dosnt mean they havnt tried hard to overcome it and still try hard. I have complex ptsd,real ocd,mdd,anxiety and i might seem self absorbed in the forums but i know in my heart i try as realisticly as i can. I think we need to be careful not to judge people who are still unwell as not willing.

Lynne

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello Helium,

My apologies for not understanding your true condition and thinks wrongly about the whole situation. I truly understand that I was in a wrong. I also understand that you have tried your level best to over come your situation. I am not judging anyone because I went through a very anxiety and depression situation and over come it. I even had friends that went to MDD, anxiety and depression and after realising them they are now happy. I am also OCD and people get so irritated with me. I am so sorry that I have hurt you.

[Guest5643]

Hi Myladygirl

Absolutely nothing to apologise for☺

Your a wonderful person with wonderful insight. We're all on all here for a reason and are sensitive at times due to our illnessess so its easy to step on each others toes at times☺

Lynne

[white knight]

Hi Myladygirl and helium

Two of my favourite posters her on the forum and you both got through that little conflict- great. That's what understanding is all about.

I have this inground belief of peoples individual capacity. We are all limited in so many ways. For example- I'm 130kg, if I wish to be a gymnast or distance runner then my wishes are unrealistic. I'd be torturing myself to continue to give those desires one minute of thinking time.

There are many more examples but that summarises that. Now, if I wish to be a pro golfer that can be considered for say two minutes because it is within peoples capacity if they have the physical commitment and ability, but in my case at 63yo and severe arthritis in my knees, two minutes is enough to ponder on it- then also discounted.

Then there is my bipolar, anxiety, depression and dysthymia (low mood constant depression). If I believe I can overcome all of them I'm not being realistic. Among other things bipolar is a brain issues with chemicals and all sorts of other irregularities. My dysthymia cause was a childhood trauma that is well held by medication that has proven a great success, my depression (separate from bipolar depression) is also well held by the meds for dysthymia basically anti D's. But anxiety is a total other matter and after 22 years I conquered it totally. All mentioned in the following thread.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it#qpS1gXHz...

So, that achievement and my techniques might not work for others. It also might not take 22 years as it did for me. But it worked nonetheless. It was within my capacity to eliminate it. If we focus on mental illness to rid it all from our lives then that tells me-

I'm not being fully realistic with my abilities

I'll likely suffer for trying to eliminate illnesses that cannot be eliminated. Eg my lifestyle and general happiness will suffer as I try so hard for my aims.

As for life being cruel. As a former prison officer (42 years ago) I saw the dark side of life. I left that job at 24yo and developed a theory. "tony, if you cant beat it, get away from it". That theory led to me moving from the city to begin a life in the country.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/want-to-be-a-hermit-#qltvMHHzvG...

We have to look after our mental health. For me part of that is watching news that doesn't display human destruction and cruelty.

TonyWK