When other survivors of abuse won't talk to you

SuperSonic · ‎03-05-2017

I really hope this post doesn't come off as selfish - please read to the end!

I was abused by a medical professional in the early 1980s (10yrs to 13 yrs old).

I've discovered a group of older women who were also abused by this person in late 60s & 70s, but they are all about 10-15 years older than me. but is seems no one now wants to talk about it.

I wonder if when you are around your 40s (like I am), is when this kind of trauma hits you the worst. And maybe they've all been through that stage and just don't want to revisit it. I don't know. But I feel like I'm an outsider of a group.

I'm going to the Royal Commission later this week and I'm feeling terribly alone about the whole thing. I know one of the other lady's has also gone to the RC and I was hoping we could discuss it before I go. However she got one of her friends to email me to say she was unable to support me as she's going through a tough time. Naturally I have to accept this, but it hurts me.

Guess I just wanted peoples thoughts on this forum, as to whether they've experienced a similar thing.

regards,

Super

kanga_brumby · ‎03-05-2017

SuperSonic welcome to forums. A safe place to talk about what is troubling you. I ave been through similar but different to you. Some people don't like to relive traumatic events of there life. It brings back mental anguish for them. They just don't cope with the pain again and again. They just want to beery it deep, and just forget it.

Reliving it with other survivors to them is to traumatic. Even if they are well known to each other. The person sometimes would rather remember a camping trip or holiday they went on. Not the terrible incident that happened. I hope the perpetrator gets there just deserves.

Kanga.

white knight · ‎03-05-2017

Hi and welcome

I'm 61. It is likely older people are of the age that they keep it all tucked away in the closet.

Old fashioned stuff

Kerp going with the RC stuff. I've got a friend that gave evidence and she had closure.

Hope you are ok.

Tony WK

SuperSonic · ‎04-05-2017

Thanks for the responses. I've now been to the RC and feel relieved to report it all. It's made me see that of course others who've already been there, just want to move on. I get it now, and hope I did not offend anyone.