vulnerable and at a loss as what to do

chitchat · ‎10-09-2019

hi

Oh my how many times have i started to write a post and then deleted it.I have searched and searched and searched but as i am not an emergency or suicidal they try but can only give me 5.And i know what its like to be suicidal and be put on hold.So if your reading this i actually got the courage to press enter.I dont know if anyone can help but i think i just need to talk .

I have sat here most of the night frozen to my chair not knowing what to do and thinking that no its not right.Yesterday there was an incident at my house where people jumped my side fence and entered my adult daughters bedroom .i woke up with her screaming race out there and she was being held against the side of the house.Things got a bit messy .i rang the police and after they had our puppies in the car got told that it is not trespass if somebody jumps your fence enters your house and if they state that it is theirs its ok and then when my daughter said she would do the same then they laughed at her.I feel unsafe in my own house i can not find anyone that will give me an ear to vent i just am a mess i have rang the free legal advice and i still am unable to clarify if what the police said is true .So saying i am traumatised is an understatement If the police wont protect you who will

Summer Rose · ‎10-09-2019

Hi ChitChat

Congratulations on finding the courage to hit post. Please know that this is a kind, supportive and non-judgemental community and I am confident the trust you have given us will be respected.

I can certainly understand why you feel traumatised. It must have been terrifying to have strangers break into your house, assault your daughter and steal your animals.

The police response doesn't sound right to me either. If I understand correctly, the police have declined to act because the thieves say the puppies belong to them. Is that correct?

Surely that's an issue that requires investigation. And I wouldn't imagine that would make it ok to break into someone's home anyway. Our society would deteriorate rapidly if everyone behaved like that.

You are right to pursue the matter. Perhaps you could also visit the police station and speak with a more senior officer. If that doesn't help you could ask how to lodge a complaint.

I'm wondering if there are security measures you could take to protect your home. New locks? Alarm system? Just thinking that it might bring you some peace of mind.

I'm really sorry for your trauma and am sending nothing but light your way.

Kind thoughts to you

chitchat · ‎11-09-2019

hi

Thanks for replying summer rose.yes we have be incontact with the police again an no still the same outcome they seem to believe the other parties and yes i have lodge a complaint but it doesnt help with the feeling i am feelings apart from putting up 10ft fences there is nothing all i can say thank good ness there is medication which i usually stay clear of but i am unable to remove the images of violence perpetrated against my daughter. yes you are correct

Summer Rose · ‎12-09-2019

Hi Chitchat

Please don't be too hard on yourself. I believe it will take some time to get those images out of your head and to work through your feelings. If I were in your shoes, I would feel the same.

A mother's instinct is always to protect their children and I don't know any mothers who would get through the type of experience you've had without sleepless nights and worry. It's okay not to be okay but important to get some professional help.

I would encourage you to go and see your GP and talk about how you are feeling and the impact the event has had on you. How does that sound to you?

Kind thoughts to you