The uglyness that is DV

[3T]

DV does it really end, even when the physical and mental abuse stop. I have been in a DV relationship for 15 yrs although the physical abuse has stopped I still feel like I'm stuck in the uglyness that is DV. A certain look a raise in a voice and it takes me back I can't breathe or think. I constantly blame myself for everything that goes wrong and still run through the check list in my mind of things that need to be done so he won't get mad. Does anyone else do this and does it get better. It feels like DV is always in the shadows waiting to rare its head again

[MamaD]

I know where you are. I have been there before. When that moment comes, and it will, it may only be fleeting, do some more preparations to leave. A bag, a list, anything. Those moments add up.

Then will come a moment, like a calm in the storm, in that moment, do it. Feel the fear but do it anyway.