hello 3T, a DV r/ship is never what type of situation you would ever want to be in, even though the abuse may have stopped there still remains the many occasions when he has been violent and these thoughts are going to remain with you, especially when he raises his voice, this is going to take you back to all those awful times.
You can't stay or live with him and you shouldn't have to keep a check list in your mind to make sure he doesn't get annoyed, this is not living a life you want, and I'm sure your friends have told you to leave and now don't come to visit you when they know he's home, plus he would tell you who you can see and who you can't, this is not a life, because you are still petrified beyond belief.
I know that AVO are not adhered to because you are too scared to report anything he shouldn't be doing, in fear of him abusing you.
THIS HAS TO CHANGE for your own benefit and safety.
There are some different ways for you to safely leave him, some which you may not agree with or some you maybe afraid of doing, but at the moment starting another r/ship will only do more harm than good, but I will list a few ways to do this, some are drastic but this is wat you may have to do.
Change your sim card and list a silent phone number, stay somewhere where he wouldn't know, move interstate and change your name by deed poll, this will just mean that you see a lawyer who will change your name and to be witnessed by two people, rather drastic but you may have to do this.
I don't know how many friends you have left, however if this chap challenges any of them for details they may comply for fear of retribution, so be careful who you tell, I know that your safety is of great concern to all of us, because this chap could change at any time. Geoff.
