Stalker; feeling isolated and alone

[Shiloskeeper]

Starting back in 2012, i went into year 7. If that isn’t Scary enough, it was also the year I gained a stalker. As I’m changing and growing, I had someone watching my every move. Trust me, I never wanted it, or felt flattered. I felt so belittled and embarrassed, I couldn’t even tell my own parents. Fast forward to year 12 (2017) I finally told my mum after so many incidents of being followed and watched during school and one occasion out of school. My mum was so frustrated and empathetic towards me going through that and angered she went into school to talk to a deputy. This went well, as the stalking stopped almost completely! I didn’t have it in my thoughts constantly like I had during those 5 years.
But now, 2 years on as if being anxious and depressed from those traumatic years of being watched and followed wasn’t enough. He’s back, at first I thought it would have to be a coincidence, seeing him drive past my house and look and smile at me, then as I drove he was parked down the street and followed me until I took a detour.
Then he started appearing outside my work, again I thought there’d have to be another reason for it so I ruled it to be a coincidence again and again. Until last week when my neighbour came and asked if we knew someone who was parking outside our house in a car of his description, at first I said it would have to be a coincidence, until we had solid evidence that proved it was him, he had been sitting there at least twice within 3 weeks.
I finally go to the police as I never thought it was a real concern and it was just strictly high school stalking.
Now I’m just waiting to hear back from the police, I’m really struggling with it all, I’m super anxious, I’m taking measures to reduce my stress and remain sane. My parents don’t live near me and my boyfriend is away training at the police academy. If anyone could give me some advice and reassurance that would be amazing, I also don’t have any friends, so someone to talk to would be appreciated.

[Croix]

Dear Shilo'skeeper~

Being stalked is a very upsetting and can be a very frightening thing and for it to restart now is horrible..

There are some measures you can take:

First if you see the person in your vicinity, at school, gym, or elsewhere then contact someone and let them now - a parent perhaps? This can also be a comfort, you are not so alone.

Then record the incident (see link below).

Try to vary your routine.

Be cautious on social media

Contact the police more than once if you need to, the do require facts, so your records should be complete like the example on the police site below

Your boyfriend can no doubt give you details specific to your state however the NSW Police site is pretty useful, particularly in how to record things

https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/crime/domestic_and_family_violence/what_is_stalking

All the incidents at school in the past and the measures the school took will be of interest to police.

I hope it works out quickly

Croix