PTSD After DV Relationship

[HopefuG]

I was in a DV relationship which I ended in 2014 and moved State to get away. I received DV counselling and was going well (was on meds). The workplace where I worked closed in December 2015 (male dominated but very supportive male manager). I got another job but it didnt feel supported and I decided to move back to my original state as my ex partner is now in jail and my family are here. I got a job as a Manager of a small family own business with a male owner, I witnessed the owner speak very badly to my 2 female colleagues on a number of occasions and then he also did it to me, he wouldn't yell he would ridicule and be very sarcastic. At this point I started to feel like I couldn't relax my body my shoulders would be so tight and I had mega pains under my ribs, this has continued for the 9 months I was at the job which I have since left. I have since become aware that my ex partner is due to be released from prison on 25/4 so I obtained a VRO. Last week I was advised that it is likely he will be deported but I won't know this for sure for another couple of weeks. My ex has objected to the restraining order - this is the first contact I have had in 3 years as I closed any form of contact because he is such a psychopath. I went to a GP yesterday and he has referred me to a clinical Psychologist as he believes I have PTSD. I have made an appointment with the psych for next week I was really just wanting some support and some tips on how to manage my crazy body. I am not working atm as I want to get myself well. I have a partner who works FIFO he is great but he's tired when he's away and I don't want to keep dumping on him and just want to heal and get on with life.

Any tips would be much appreciated.

[blondguy]

Hi HopefuG

You have been through some very serious issues. I keep hearing about (some) male company directors that just dont get it where respect towards staff and basic communication skills/protocols are concerned.

FIFO can be hard on a relationship.....Do you have a small support network...a couple a friends or even a close neighbor that you get along with? Venting to people that care for you is crucial at the moment.

Just fyi Ive had chronic anxiety followed by depression and have much of my peace back....with meds which work

The forums are a judgement free zone and a SAFE place for you too.

There are many gentle people here on the forums that can be here for you HopefuG....no worries at all..

Beyond Blue also have super gentle qualified people on the 24/7 line if you need a voice on voice: 1300 22 4636.

I understand that your partner is mega tired when he gets home. Your health and your safety concerns are a part of your/his relationship too. Its a 50/50 split as you know. I hope you can involve him as these are important issues

my kind thoughts for you

please let us know how you go 🙂

Paul