Post traumatic symptoms

[Srfr]

New to this, sharing is difficult for me - usually involved shame in my past.

finding it difficult to concentrate, high level of anxiety and quick to become irritated. Also, nerves are shot.

recent complex bereavement; ever since, the above symptoms.

just feel tired and a bit despairing too.

wish I had something positive to share but not at the moment!

[blondguy]

Hello Srfr

I am happy you are here as if we didnt have new members like yourself the forums wouldnt exist so thankyou for having the courage to post with us 🙂

The forums are a secure and non judgemental place for you. I was a mess in 2016 when I joined and had nothing positive to say either

Difficulty concentrating.....high anxiety levels.....quickly irritated....mentally exhausted. I understand those awful feelings and its a dark place to be in Srfr...ugh

I lost my dad two years ago next month and it still hurts....a lot...Can I ask about your recent loss? (only if thats okay with you Srfr)

you are not alone

there are many gentle people that can be here for you

my kind thoughts for you

Paul

[Idkme]

Hi Srfr,

completely understand what you’re going through.... I experienced a ‘trigger’ reaction only weeks ago from an event over 20 years ago... it threw me in a nose dive spin.... luckily I called some helplines and got some advice and have now found a good psychologist to help me deal with all the issues I’ve bottled up. Someone who had specifically dealt with trauma.

Its great to chat to someone who understands the physiological things I was going through.

It took a lot of courage for me to seek help, but I did and I’m on the road of self healing. I was experiencing similar things to you, including negative self help and a sense of urgency like I was panicky for no reason... I learned to research lots of the dymptoms and started finding reasons for the way I felt which empowered me a bit.

I hope that helps... you’re not alone.

[Srfr]

Paul,

thanks for your kind reply.

yes, my Dad too. 1 yr 8 mths now... had anxiety before but this is to the max..

notice the panic acutely now, meditation is helpful but also stressful, as I can see my fight/flight response kicking in

pretending, wearing the mask society requires is so tiring! Am sick of that, but pushing forward as best I can with the symptoms....cannot cry, so exercise is key..

glad to know there is such a support out there...just hopeful the stigma can hurry up & go, so I/others can have “real” friendships without having to be hyper vigilant!!

Thanks so much & peace to you 🤘

[blondguy]

Hello Srfr (and thankyou for your complimentary post)

My sincere condolences on the loss of your dad.....I dont think there is a time when we stop grieving when we lose a parent. I really feel for you on this

Just out of respect to you...I have been on Antidepressants for the chronic anxiety I had years before my dad passed. The meds are a huge help yet are never a fix all. The meds do provide us with a solid foundation on which we can heal more effectively using frequent visits with our doc. (GP/Psychologist etc)

The Good News 🙂 These awful anxiety feelings do reduce in severity over time...especially when we have the determination and patience to heal

Just for me my SSRI's reduced my bad anxiety by approx 60% (yay!) Yet I still had to get some counseling to help me dump the fear response. I had weekly visits with a community mental health care worker for 7 months and they worked wonders...even though I cried a lot in the first few visits....I felt awkward and embarrassed but this was a part of the 'healing process'

I was a dill and only had sporadic (every six months) counseling for the first 12 years of my chronic anxiety. This only made my anxiety worse unfortunately

You are a legend with your health Srfr....Good1 🙂

Great to have you as part of the Beyond Blue Family...You are not alone at all. Any questions are welcome

please be gentle with yourself and please post back when its convenient for you!

Paul