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[ecomama]

Hi everyone
not sure what parts to disclose here, feeling very uneasy posting. I feel like a lot of people here, know that I'm socially isolated but feel it's safer this way. I have a lot of mixed feelings due to covid19; feeling freer or even happier that movements were restricted as I have had little choice but to live this way for a long time. Then I realised how odd this reaction is, opposite to what I was hearing at work. Simultaneously I felt huge grief for the world. I'm experiencing compassion fatigue from all of this.

my life has been wrought with trauma & grief, tremendous violence & loss. I desperately sought help from authorities to stop things over many decades. I have fought so hard through courts etc, I know it has cost me a lot of mental stability a lot of the time. At least my children and I are safe atm. Feeling safe is another thing entirely!

happiness eludes me. I strive for the happiness of my children. I don't know how to attain personal happiness, so have strived for contentment. I work hard physically but feel far more exhausted by my mind. flashbacks and memories often come back relentlessly in my waking hours and in my dreams. Working hard physically helps me sleep better 🙂

I used to be very sociable, quite athletic and had a large family. The abuse has taken its toll. My relationships were undermined by the abuser, so they are lost. My physical health was severely impacted by the abuse also. I have a counsellor but I was advised by a close friend who is studying psychology to seek a more intensive type of therapy. I have completed countless hours in therapy through books, online and in person over decades. My counsellor is very impressed by my persistence, resilience and recovery but I feel awful most of the time.

I have no relationships with extended family anymore which is very sad for me. I have basically given up trying since doors are constantly closed on that front.
Soon I plan to take leave from my work to support my children all struggling in their learning from home programs. I will have to take leave on far less pay, so this presents obvious issues to an already stretched financial situation.

I know there is no magic cure for all the issues I have at hand but I still have hope that things will improve and that I can feel happy one day. I pray there are answers within this forum for me.

Thanks for reading.

[Guest_498]

Ems, my family is full of narcissists also. My oldest cousin (female), my aunty & my sister. One of the characteristics of narcissism is thieving. I've had money and goods taken from me over the years. It's almost like they're entitled to other belongings.

I re-read your message and apologize for reading it incorrectly .. yes, DM was there to hand out b' day cards - how dare she after everything she's put you through. Should this continues and after telling her to stay away on several ocassions, you might have to take an intervention order on her. Keep records of date, time, and cards, as well as note any other contacts. Hopefully, this will be the last time she does anything like this again.

[Guest_498]

The court system is not a pleasant place to be - it's a stressful & depressing environment. The courts do not like people reacting or show any emotional responses. It is viewed as being overwrought, not composed. Court is austere and formal and the judges reflect this, so any reaction will not work in your favour. It is just cold, in my opinion.

Ems, I have a property that is worth x amount of money, I don't believe these organisations can help (other than for simple legal advice, which I have knowledge of anyway), as I wouldn't meet their criteria for funding. I'll have to pay for a lawyer. I don't have the money for one at the moment.

[ecomama]

Thankyou for your feedback dear Blubes....

Police don't regard giving cards as reason for AVO whatsoever. Or intermittent calls. Or periodically visiting the kid's school. I've already investigated this.

SO I got them all new phones. All ex and family are blocked from all kids social media. I exited all social media.

Blubes the Women's Legal Service doesn't care what property you own. At all. This is not a Legal Aid service.

It's only Legal Aid that has criteria like this.

Nor do Community Legal services. No criteria.

Neither offer to represent you. Though they can offer to support you throughout your entire Legal journey. WLS did this for me.... it was extreme and we were in extreme danger from the threats. Courts didn't think so as they had stopped for a month by me blocking.

I ended up being given the direct number to the Head Honcho at WLS as my "hotline" and was asked to call any time. Esp before and after each Court Hearing as they kept notes.
THEN WLS guided me what to tell my Lawyers / Barristers.
WLS knew more than them.

ALOT more. They were up to date on EVERYTHING. At first my Lawyer hated this but I would not stop and she actually thanked me in the end as NO ONE actually saw what was coming.
(Disclosures from the kids to Court). My Lawyer knew esp with the Royal Commission reports I'd made that she was in over her head.
ALL of them were.

But she was the ONLY Lawyer I was not conflicted out of for hundreds of klms. ex had been seeing EVERY Lawyer possible for the free half hour to conflict me out and leave me high and dry.

IF you call WLS and a Community Law support service then you will know this.
They may or may not be able to support you in the way I want. I know all Law sectors are snowed under thickly bec of Covid.
But you can try.

EM

[Guest_498]

Hey Ems,

You're a fountain of knowledge, thank you. I will give them a call. Thanks for the info, darl.

You ABSOLUTELY can file for an intervention order. As this falls within the civil, not criminal division, applying for one would be in yours and the children's best interest - you may lodge an application to stop family violence (physical or mental) of any unwanted acts that are designed to cause harm or distress of ANY NATURE (doesn't have to be violent). In your case, because of your back ground and history with this family, you should at least go for it. The court will factor in the circumstances and the grievances DM caused to you and your children. Furthermore, you have explixitly told her not to contact you again repeatedly, it falls under the area of stalking.

Any way, enjoy your weekend and relax yourself. I'm super bored atm.

[Guest_498]

What are you up to? I'm so bored & feeling down right now. Covid lock down is def taking its toll on me, as I can't go anywhere. I'm also desperately yearning for some friends to socialize and connect with. I miss having friends. I feel like crying.
I used to be social and outgoing. I'm super gregarious, although I'm both introverted & extroverted. Peoples perception of me is that I'm a 'party animal' cause of the way I look - both men & women think so. I used to be, not too much these days... My partying days are over, meaning my priorities in life had changed over the years. I still 'party

[Guest_498]

Sorry, I accidentally hit the reply button whilst I was typing and didn't finish my last thread properly.
As I was saying .. I'm a gregarious person and I miss having friends.
I feel sad about everyone closing their doors on me, people I thought were my friends getting involved in the scam and betrayed me. I haven't a soul left. I'm really feeling the loneliness & isolation.

[ecomama]

Hi Bluberry

Sorry I wasn't around last night. I was like a pinball in a pinball machine, making about 16 trips out of the house for my kid's 18th birthday family celebrations.

When I drive too much my right foot aches - manual car. BIG OOMPA loompa car lol.

So I had to go to bed in between, nap, put my foot up etc.

They're about to arrive any minute but I wanted to say HANG IN THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm quite like you gregarious and extroverted but extremely introverted at times too now.

Please visit ABC iView - they have great shows on MH and they've helped me alot through this time.

Love you, they're here...
EM

[Guest_498]

Hey,
Kinda over watching t.v tbh. Been doing that last 7 - 8 months now because of covid lockdown.
I really don't know what else to do.

[ecomama]

Hi sweetheart

I swept off my balcony today and swept around my old antique chairs out there.

Have you thought about doing some type of upcycling furniture?
One of my fave upcycle projects to do is OLD CHAIRS.
I LOVE chalk paint - heck I love ANY paint I think lol.

Also monkey_magic is doing a paint by numbers of a waterfall.
YD is doing one too of a rainforesty scene.

I prefer fine pointed coloured textas and my Colourtations book.
And using watercolour pencils. They're beautiful.

But I also have about 5 unfinished (but started) cross stitches.
I love crotchet and knitting. I have lots of wool but no inspiration for these atm.

I do love felting and sewing cute little things like different sized gnomes lol. Using blanket stitch.
I keep these in my "waiting bag" which is needed less and less as the kids grow up. Not waiting at dancing, gym, Drs etc etc much anymore.

Do you sew? do you have a sewing machine?

OR YOU CAN GET THE BUG and join our gardening group lol! It's the MOST perfect time to grow some easy veg and or herbs.... and they taste THE BEST in cooking. So much better than supermarket stuff.
I do all this very cheaply using Permaculture methods. Seldom buy anything.

EM

[monkey_magic]

Hi all,

Finally finished that paint by numbers waterfall! Looks magical. I couldn't paint masterpieces like it if it weren't for paint by numbers. I'd recommend it Bluberry!

The other day I had a Bluberry/ banana smoothie and laughed to myself. I thought oh blueberries lol. Do you like them? I'm a fan.

When I'm bored I browse the net or play online pokies which is a pretty bad habit. Social media is prob better and costs nothing. Have u found anything else to do?

My car's also manual Eco, new one will be auto though... taking the easy Rd...now...

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