Marriage

[Sharda]

Hello everyone. My name is Sharda, my hometown is Fiji Island. I've been living in Australia for last 12years. I met my husband at a friend's wedding. Hez from India. We started chatting since the. He some how convinced me that hez a very nice honest guy. Only because hez visa was about to expire and he didn't wanted to back India. So he made fall in love with him and we got married. Now after 5years he got hez residency, he wants to go india and marry hez girlfriend. He always fights with me, im a epileptic also got migraine. He just wants divorce from me. We have no kids. I'm so helpless. My family is back home. My husband say dirty things to me and that girl calls and they both torture me. I don't know what to do, I'm so depressed and stressed out.

[Sophia16]

Hi Sharda,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums and thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. Must be hard dealing with so many people and dealing with epilepsy.

Have you spoken to your husband about how you feel about all of this? Communication is always key.

Stay safe and i am always here to chat.

[Mum Chris]

Hi Sharda

Welcome and your situation must be very painful. I hope you are ok. You can call 1800respect and get some support for his bad behaviour to you.
It’s important to look after yourself during these hard times. Make sure you are getting rest and doing things to brighten your day.
❤️

MC

[geoff]

Hello Sharda,nk you so much for posting your comment and I'm very sorry for you for two reasons, the first that you're an epileptic and the second that you were conned into marrying this chap, only because his visa was about to end.

If you stay married to this chap, then he and his girlfriend are going to continuously cause problems for you, when they do this it's only going to cause your depression to stress you even more, although I'm not a qualified doctor, but know how this feels and it's certainly not a pleasant feeling.

If he can do this now, then it could happen even more if you stay married to him, take his advice and get a divorce, then you'll be able to find someone who loves you and not pretend to do so, just to get a visa.

Can I ask you if you are getting the help you need for your epilepsy.

Take care.

Geoff. x

[Summer Rose]

Hi Sharda

Welcome to the bb forum.

I’m so sorry that you are experiencing epilepsy and now finding out some really hard truths about the man you married. He must be quite cold and calculating under his false exterior.

None of this is your fault.

I’m sure that your husband knew exactly what to say and do to manipulate you into falling in love and marrying him.

Some people can be very cruel. I could be wrong but this could also be a crime—marriage by deception to gain citizenship and I assume financial gain. You may want to visit your local police station and talk with an officer.

You deserve so much better than this. If you can see your GP and talk about the impact on your mental health I think it would help. A good counsellor can help you to work through your feelings and support you through your next steps.

Are you eating? Sleeping? Please try to look after yourself and post any time. I know how challenging it is to live away from family but you are no longer alone. Our community will support you.

Kind thoughts to you