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[Laney-BB1234]

Ok so i have a lot to say

Firstly im lesbian, have been since last year, and my parents went through my phone a few months ago, found chats where i was s3xually explicit with girls and they were PISSED. They are very religious and very very homophobic :((( that rlly damaged my mental health and they still make remarks about it and i currently have a gf and i dont know how to hide her from them and i dont want to break up either, even though ik safety wise itd be better for me

Secondly, last year i was r@ ped by someone. i dont want to go into too many details but it shattered my mental health and caused me to s3lf h@r m quite frequently. I havent told anyone except for my friend and my gf (both of who were very understanding and compassionate) but im terrified ill be too scared for intimacy or the trauma will plague me forever and i just dont know

I want to talk to our school based youth therapist about both things but will they tell my parents anything??? i dont know how confidential it is, they (parents) dont know about the @ssault/h @rming cause i know them well enough to know theyd just blame me and say i deserved it.

I dont like my parents at all omg.

I think thats basically all i wanted to say, if anyone has advice or comforting words or their own experiences i would deeply appreciate it 🙂

Laney.

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Laney,

I'm so sorry to hear of your experiences, both with your parents and the assault last year. I am wondering if speaking to a counselling support service may help, such as Kids Helpline. I don't know your age but they have a section for 13-17 and 18-25. Their number is 1800 55 1800 and they do WebChat too. I just thought if you are unsure about speaking to the school based youth therapist, you may feel more comfortable speaking to a counselling service such as Kids Helpline. If you look at their website they cover many issues including sexual identity and also sexual assault as well as challenges in relation to parents.

It would definitely be good to get some help in relation to the s/h issues and to support you in relation to processing the assault that happened. I experienced two sexual assaults when a bit older than you (21 and 36) and I didn't get support. I know it would have been good if I had as I think it helps you work through what happened much sooner and also restores a sense of safety when that has been violated. You could also speak to 1800RESPECT too. I just thought of Kids Helpline first because of your age and they may be particularly tailored towards a young person such as yourself.

I'm glad you have had the understanding and compassionate support from your friend and gf. It is grounding to have support and it really helps along the way. Take good care and feel free to let us know how you go with things.

Kind regards,

Eagle Ray